Thank you for your honesty.

Yes, that's why I asked how THEY had been asked.

Thanks, Antman. A little TMI, but I only have a few more years before I can't have a baby at all. If I'm going to do this, I'll need to do it soon. And living in AR, there arent a lot of like-minded single dudes hanging out.

@Sara72712 hmmm.....I want to help...not in that way though. I have enough kids ?. Not sure what to say though.

@Sara72712 Older Men still produce sperm,however the chance of birth defects increases with age,Autism,Spinal Bifida,and others,so hopefully the Man you need is under 50.

@Mike1947 nope. He's 98 years old.

SMDH. Thanks for playing.

@Sara72712 really? 98? Get in his will you might kill him trying to get the sperm ?

@antman no. Not really. He's 35. But what a ridiculous thing for that dude to comment!

@Sara72712 haha. What does the guy you have in mind think about it?

@antman idk. I haven't asked him yet. He told me once that he wanted to be a dad, but he's currently in a position where kids arent in his future. I'm open to him being in our lives, as much or as little as he wants to be. He's a great guy. I'm financially secure, and have a great support system, so I don't exactly "need" him to support us. But he's so smart and so sweet, and unbelievably cultured and talented. He would be a good addition to a kid's life. I'm just terrified to ask him.

Because I want a child of my own.

Yes, the legal bridge would have to be crossed. There are many options I'm open to. But first I have to ASK HIM! Did you read my question?

@Sara72712 i did but it appears your need to breed is pushing the real life consequences aside......reality is legal stuff, not a touchy-feely "talk", and you should talk to a lawyer Before you talk to the guy, IMO. You are not being realistic about the myriad ramifications, nor are you prepared to answer His inevitable questions, you just "want"......

@AnneWimsey I'm so glad you know me that well, to assume all those things.

If you would please go back and read my question... it asks how the guy had been asked. That's all. I have everything under control, I was just wondering about others' experiences.

Actually, if you had remotely comprehended the question, you wouldn't have added your nonsense, as you obviously haven't been asked to be a sperm donor. So why even comment?

@Sara72712 "I have everything under control"....i am by far in the majority of replies advising you to consult a lawyer, which you have not done. Not exactly planning this, just wanting it. Good luck to both the guy & possible child, sweetie, you appear to have the personality of a pit viper.

@AnneWimsey you think I woke up yesterday and decided to have a baby? At what point did it say I wasn't planning it? This wasn't spur of the moment. My uncle is a laywer, you cunt. But you don't know me well enough to know that. So you just blather away, on your fucking high horse.

All I wanted was to hear about others' experiences? Is that too hard for you to comprehend?

As far as I'm concerned, I need to reproduce so the world isnt full of ignorant sanctimonious bitches like you. LOL! Fucking pit viper, damn straight. Leave me the fuck alone. You have NOTHING valuable to add to this conversation. But alas, you're too ignorant to know that, for some reason. And keep replying on MY post. Why? Go get a life, sweetie.

@Sara72712 i rest my case. Oh, and my question bout adoption? Don't bother applying, you would be rejected. Oh, and btw sarahroo, you haven't changed a bit!

@AnneWimsey LOL, what the fuck is your problem, bitch?? Feel better now? Like, what on Earth makes you continue to reply to my post? Honestly, I have no idea what your deal is. Here, I'll spell it out for you, since you are apparently slow.

Have you been asked to be a sperm donor?

Yes? Feel free to reply to my post.

No? Go the fuck away!

You, ma'am, are a bully. You come to a public forum, behind a fucking screen and trying to tear people down. People you don't know. I'm an adult. I have a plan. I've consulted a lawyer. I'm not your child, goodness help those poor children, I don't need your asshole remarks about anything. I had one very simple question, that means a lot to me. But no, you had to be a condescending cunt about the whole thing. I will wait for a while, to make sure you see this, then block your ignorant ass so you can't ruin this forum for me. I hope you find happiness in your life. You are obviously a very unhappy mean person.

@VictoriaNotes thank you for your comment.

@VictoriaNotes YOU ARE RIGHT, OF COURSE! And I certainly should have written ''nothing harder than being a single parent.'' Thanks for reminding me! The comment was based on my own experience and those of friends. I've never known a single father of a small child. KUDOS TO YOU!