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Why does this community have to be so harsh?
We non believers have so much going against us in the real world, we should find a way to have each other's backs. We need to find a way to support each other in our daily struggles and this difficult world. Hell in some parts of this world they put you to death for atheism.

I have noticed something lately. I see there is a certain degree of attack and proceed going on. Seems to me that we want to inject our opinion on everything no matter how insensitive our opinion is.
I am not talking about someone who post a link to something you don't agree with or something silly that you want to dispute.
What I am referring to is someone saying that they have an issue with xyz and you instantly go on the attack because xyz is your own fault or something you don't get because you have social anxiety or some other thing. How is that at all helpful? I know often we say things and we don't realize that it comes out a certain way but maybe not saying something might be better than saying boo hooo get off the pity pot.

I have an idea, why don't we try to help each other survive in this world, why don't we have a community of people who care about others in their community. About helping them with good intentions and helpful comments? Novel I know, but it might be worth a stab.

Akfishlady 8 Aug 1
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I am a sarcastic prick and think of all sorts of smartass things to write in the comment section, but I usually think it instead of actually type it nowadays.

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I think because then we are no different than a religion. Where you support the person on your side in a single aspect of life and then support every thing they say regardless of topic. People's feelings are not more important than yours. However taking discussions and or disagreements personally is something only you can control...the other person shouldn't be making personal attacks but at times it is inevitable that 2 people just can't discuss a topic without an attack

Not that there can't be an atheist support group but I would find it very unlikely I join one of those.
I DGAF the rest of the world "picks" on us or thinks they can bully atheists. I am happy and will defend my position but don't really care if it makes "sense" to anyone else but me. 100% of the rest of the world can disagree but won't necessarily make me change my mind because I am alone.

Your beliefs are a personal choice imo. Nobody should care whether you believe what they do or not. The problem with religion is those beliefs are all 100% in accordance with that particular denomination.

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I've had that same trouble my friend. I've found that if you don't let those that disagree with you get to you, you have a much better time here. I welcome you here with open arms. 🙂

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This surprised me as well.

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There is nothing wrong with stating a dissenting opinion. But there is NO reason to go on the offensive or to be rude about it. I believe this is still a community of mostly intelligent, compassionate people (with a few assholes in the mix). We should be able to converse in a civilized manner.

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Amen sister.

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Compromise is dead

@daylily Congress

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I don't see Agnosticism, Atheism, Freethinking,,, as a community, I don't want it to be. Not a movement or a party,,, But I do get your point of the ignorant Ad hominemAnuses on this platform. Luckily the mods here seem to be more professional than on other lousy platforms. 'Trying' to understand someone else's point goes also for our fellow theists homo-sapiens. [agnostic.com]

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I have attended secular group meetings in the past and their mantra was "attack the idea not the person " It's a good thing to remember but when confronted with some racist bigoted person it is not always easy

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...I ask would those trolls get
their cruelty bolstered here
--where else can the interaction
of opposing views happen
HERE- we learn about our
selves/others-choose what to
embrace OR challenge?️
--open to challenge my views👍
because new info happens all WAYS?. ...if your views
cannot handle debate
or scrutiny (trolls):::?those views
or doctrine quite readily might be
wrong/ possibly dangerous (waste of
(energy to defend). Glad your here
and I'm honored to be here?

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...two words-empathy:::& sensitivity..
...the e word is a tool-some misuse it
it's used today as a negotiation or
ploy
***deep subject word --?- I really think some are born
with more(& it can be cultivated).
.....got to say that these subjects
are emotional dynamite (especially
for some-ask yourself y)because
of the implications ?

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Just because you are an atheist/agnostic doesn't mean you are smart, or a good person, or anything else, and the older I get, the less patience I have (and I never had much to start with!) .

@Truthandeffort i lived in the DEEP South in the 60's and the people definitely seemed dumber...it takes a lot of energy/denial to agree with segregation, do-overs on the Civil War, pluscreligion that aborts that mindset.

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I'm not sure exactly the issue you are talking about. Perhaps if you objected to the offensive comment on the posted topic. Just a thought.

@Akfishlady It could happen from time to time depending on what members are encountering in their own lives, serious life events, or ...? Then there are those people who are troubled and will put someone else down to make them feel above others. I haven't seen enough (I've experienced it a couple of times) to say it is wide spread, just yet.

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Hmmmm .... It's hard for me to relate to this, so I am probably guilty somehow.

I like to think I give as good as I get. If I think I am getting "crazy", I was raised by crazy (read "insane" not "unusual" ) parents, so I can give "crazy" to any limit you care to go to.

But "sensitive" is a little harder for me to gauge, I try, but can only guess.

Sorry to hear you've been feeling attacked.

@Akfishlady I comment because I can and I want to. Try to stop me!! 😀

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It's because Americans, regardless of race,religion or non, younger and old, all gender are anti people, thus anti - community, they live in their self illusional perfectionism, in America, you must be exceptional individualistic to enjoy living a productive and happier life. I have been banned from groups here on this site for posting a link that had information people didn't like, that's the same with some views. imagine that.

Have you studied law . You'd make a great public defender !

@Cast1es no. I am not a lawyer.

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This post is so vague and I'm on this site so infrequently that I have no idea what you mean. Forced to guess, which I am, if you are referencing liberal versus conservative or humans versus Trumpers, I call foul. People who support and often strive to emulate conservative, bible-thumping, female-domineering racist and xenophobic apes are most likely NOT here for like-minded, intelligent discourse, they are here merely to inflame. Not cool.

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