Hey friends. Today is exactly one week out from my divorce hearing. I've been working with a legal aid attorney, and just found out she won't be able to join me at court due to a scheduling conflict. Husband says he's ready to just settle, since we hammered out a custody agreement many months ago with the aid of a mediator. I have two dear friends joining me for moral support. Anyone have any suggestions for getting through this horror show in one piece? I'm finding my spirit to be very raw right now. Frequent spells of torpor, punctuated by brief little rain showers of tears. I'm terrified that he's mounting some attack and I'm going to go in there and get shredded. I don't want to go on the attack, I don't want his money, I just want peace. Kindly advice is welcome, as are any words of encouragement you have time to spare. This has been the worst time of my life, and it's almost over. I would have thought I'd be feeling and doing better at this point, one year after leaving him. But my fear is getting the best of me right now. Thanks, and peace.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I would like to point out the standard MO for lawyers is to ask for a continuance. Ergo, ask for a continuance. It can only help, and won't hurt. You have a valid reason.
Best of luck to you.
STLChris1963
Level 4
Aug 20, 2018
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A positive outlook will help you at this time. Do you talk at all? Has he shown indications of bitterness? Has he been fair in his treatment of you during the split up of common possessions? Have you been fair to him? If you have treated each other with respect and fairness, you should be in fine shape. I wish you luck in the future.
ezwryder
Level 7
Aug 20, 2018
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It will be so fast, and so "cut & dried" you will be pleasantly astonished. Plan a nice lunch or dinner for afterwards!
AnneWimsey
Level 9
Aug 20, 2018
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No,you need your Attorney,when you are vulnerable,emotional,tears,and mind frazzled,is when you will lose all you've worked for. A Divorce is like a death,lots of mourning for what one was,possessions sold off,home given up,if children are involved visitation rights,and their world has been turned upside down,expect grades to suffer and maybe depressions.
Mike1947
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Aug 20, 2018
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