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My family now knows that I don't believe in a God.

I came from a not-so religious family. Of course, coming from a Catholic country, it is expected that of a citizen to be baptized as a Catholic or at least, a Protestant Christian.

Due to this, I went on and off with Christianity in general. Years later, I finally settled and held on to the belief that a God cannot exist. Even if there is, He's not doing a pretty good job of doing it or at least, explaining Himself.

Anyway, my mother went back to her firm religious inclinations as a Christian. One of the main reasons I left my hometown is to leave any roots of the Christian community I grew up in. Somehow, I confessed that I actually don't believe in a God, and my mother just took it lightly.

Or, so I thought.

Whenever I commit mistakes, my disbelief in a God is held against me. The disasters that happen in my life is due to the fact that I do not pray or attend church. Yeah... It's not as if my life was any better when I was a Christian.

My friends are accepting of my belief. Even a local priest around here does not condemn me. Why should my family be the one to judge me? Why should they think themselves holy and cast their judgments right before their God can make his?

CesStuart 5 Oct 20
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Good for you for coming out of the closet about being an atheist. I wouldn't have good response from my family about believing in god and fairy tales. So i know where your coming from.

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I sympathize, I also have some family members who are always critical of my non-belief and trying to bring me back to God. I am really fed up to the point that I just don't even want to talk to them.

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You have a human right to beileve what you want too,. No one can make you beileve anything. Families like this suck. I feel for you and support who you are

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You have to be true to your own belief's, or you will find yourself living a lie.

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I never understood the logic in believing that going to church or praying was going to make your life so charmed.

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You are smart enough to solve problems, because we are using our brains.

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I admire your bravery. I have similar things with my mom and I haven’t actually told her I’ve stopped believing because she and dad are old, unhealthy, and I don’t want to hurt them if I can avoid it. Perhaps that’s a poor excuse for avoiding it. My mom is always saying that my “attitude toward god is probably why I’m having a tough time.” Even though there are plenty of things they’d consider “blessings” in my life as well. When I pointed that out it’s always: “But look how much more you’d have with god!” I struggled more when I was in the church, so... I can definitely feel where you’re coming from on this. ??

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People who put church before family, usually end up bitter old and alone, especially when they find what family they have put church before them too.

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Humour, without disrespect, sprinkled with lots of love will keep you both in a better frame of mind. Don’t forget the hugs. ?

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I think you did the right thing.. in time, i would like to believe you and your family will come to terms on this .. 🙂

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It may be because your mum sees your rejection of god as a rejection of her. Maybe try a light hearted response? "I love you, mum, but I think god's too busy setting up Duterte as Marcos Mk II and firing hurricanes at us to worry about my little brown butt."

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Welcome to the truth as even in the book of fiction says the truth will set you free, then I add the slave chains of religions. I am in a religious breeding ground in lower central valley California. If there was any gods we would not have posionous plants and animals, birth defects, so many natural disasters. Can go on but you understand.

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Your family is treating you the way they are because you scare the shit out of them. You admit to not believing and you weren't struck down on the spot.

They feel compelled to defend their delusions. Since you don't believe, you are
their most convenient target. If it were anyone else in your family, besides you, that's who they'd target.

Moving away was a great idea. Go live your life.
Next time any of them start giving you a hard time, just remind them that their god is no more real than Harry Potter. Granted, it probably won't shut them up, but it'll piss them off that you have a response. Don't back down. You aren't the delusional one.

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You are obviously very brave and smart. Trust your intellect. You are on a right path.

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that's how mothers are. actually life partners can be that way too. if they're mad, it's convenient to hold onto one thing you ever did "wrong" (whether or not it's actually wrong) because they think it strengthens their argument. it's natural, if she has become religious, for her to pick on your disbelief. i think the proper response is an eyeroll.

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