So today at the mechanics I'm sitting in the waiting area with several men, including employees. I am the only female. Now I'm a gregarious sort and can and will talk about almost anything, with just about anyone. We get to talking about cars and how this one car sucked. One of the waiting customers pipes up, "that's what she said".
So there's this awkward silence while everyone looks at me...lol...then no one says anything for a minute....aaakwarrrd! Lmao. And you know...despite my juvenile and filthy sense of humor...I was a bit offended.
Why? Well, because at least the way I was raised, you don't do that in mixed company. You just don't.
To his credit, especially after picking up on the subtle social cues telling him he put his foot in his mouth...the fool had the good grace to be embarrassed. But I guess my question is for the younger generations here. I'm 54. I see many social norms of my generation regarding etiquette just dissolving away. Is that stuff ok now in many situations? I mean, all the men there were between 30ish and 60ish...I think the offender may have been a late 20-something.
I don't know...in a more intimate group I know I would have laughed and countered. But not this time...thoughts?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.That was a running joke on the sitcom "The Office" for years. It's an established bit of pop culture like "Where's the Beef?" was in the 80s. Nothing offensive about it.
Sgt_Spanky
Level 8
Nov 6, 2018
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I worked in a shipyard with 20,000 men for 13 years...i have NO idea what the problem was...did you think the remark was off-topic? Why Not turn it into a joke to embarrass the fool? Something like, "how would You know?" I find these things to be Teaching Moments!
AnneWimsey
Level 9
Nov 6, 2018
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Youth can be impetuous in its inexperience. Maybe the kid learned something. You never learn a thing unless you fuck up, and then realize you fucked up.
zeuser
Level 9
Nov 5, 2018
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True. That was the amusing part. He knew it!
It is a sign of age, I feel the same way. It's kind of embarrassing to see the generation that people of my generation raised. It's difficult for me cause I was raised that public displays of rude or crude behavior is a sign of being extremely low class. How you present yourself in public matters only to us old farts I guess.
Kojaksmom
Level 8
Nov 5, 2018
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Right? That's exactly how I was raised as well.
@Gooniesnvrdie sometimes dementia can do that. Some people get very hostile as they age.
i was at a party once a million years ago. i was in my 20s, and the partiers were both younger and older than i. we were standing/sitting around in small groups, talking and listening, and some guy was talking to the guys in the small group in which i stood, and said something he apparently thought was too rough for mixed company, because he immediately turned to me and apologized. my response was "damned right, fuck that shit, there's a goddamned lady here watch your fucking mouth." my point was that if he cared THAT much about offending people -- anyone, not just women, in ANY way -- then he should have watched his mouth. if he didn't care, then he should not have apologized. i've seen it too many times not to find it hypocritical... on TOP of the fact that he just assumed that a female would be shocked, SHOCKED, i tell you, at whatever it was he uttered. so it was, for me, a double whammy.
in your situation -- haha, it might or might not have gone over my head, as i haven't heard that exact version. (i'd have recognized something closer to "said the whore to the john" ) how he said it might have given me the clue. had i caught on, i probably would have said something and who knows -- it might have been gentle or it might not have been so mild. i like to think i am not totally predictable!
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genessa
Level 8
Nov 5, 2018
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Yup, a teaching moment..you did Great!
@AnneWimsey lol sometimes politeness is an inappropriate response, right? 
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@genessa politeness towards aggressive men by women is Always perceived as weakness, IMO!
Every generation encounters the passage of time and politeness the same way
you just did. It's kind of awkward being the one out of place in the room, I agree. More than once, I've overheard the ladies in the lunchroom at work saying things that would make a hardened veteran blush. Take that any way you like.
chucklesIII
Level 7
Nov 5, 2018
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You're so right! Girls "locker room" talk can be worse than men's!
The phrase "Said the actress to the bishop" is a colloquial and vulgar British exclamation, offering humour by serving as a punch line that exposes an unintended double entendre. An equivalent phrase in North America is "that's what she said".[1] Each phrase is an example of a Wellerism, exposing a second meaning of what precedes it.
hippydog
Level 8
Nov 5, 2018
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Seems like it's been going on a long time.
Might be hard to get rid of it..
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See I like rude jokes.....but I also enjoy being offended????? tricky
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Nov 5, 2018
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