I've suffered with mental illness since the age of 15. This time of year I find particularly depressing as I have no family close. Anyone else struggling with this?
I am President of a singles social club for over-55's...every year for both Thanksgiving & Xmas I have n Open House, big traditional feast, for anybody who cares to BYOB...some years i get one person, some years 10. Peruse Meetup to find compatible groups, fill your life with friends! Maybe, give an Open House yourself, recruit from service people, single friends, etc etc.....
I think those who know me best wonder how it is I don’t have a harder time around now.. 3K miles from the nearest family, it’s not an option for either to easily connect. Sometimes, that thought alone can nearly turn me inside out. And, I’ll let it..
New friends have helped, spent the afternoon with a half dozen of them today, we all ‘needed it!’ Getting out & into nature as much as is safe and practical helps me, too. Watching wildlife make the most of every moment grounds me.
And keep in mind how much of ‘this season’ is fabricated BS anyway. Between shitty weather, darkness, the stress of attending endless events and meeting unrealistic expectations ... everyone’s on edge. At least you admit it
Yep chronically depressed and no time to feel as alone as on the jolly holidays. Ive got some family but its complicated. the ones who are closeby physically arent the ones who are closeby emotionally. My sister is the only family I can really connect with and she'll probably come into town at some point but I always wind up too broke to adequately give gifts and just feel bad because she always gets me a few really thoughtful things.
But yeah Ive lived alone except for my grandma who couldnt coherently speak most of the last decade or more, and now goin on the past couple years without her company either is tough. I tried to help her for as long as I could but she needed assisted living after a second stroke and the best facility is an hour away so I can't afford to visit her as much as Id like either. I hope you take as much of the good advice below as you can and stay active, in touch with or making friends, learn something, get cozy n read some good books, seek and give help. And if nothing else keep reachin out here if you can't find someone to talk to, we've always got time and commiseration.
Thank you!
My thoughts and sincere sympathies are with you.
I've been the same as you, though mostly undiagnosed since childhood, for the last 17+ years BUT I have the great fortune to have a small but fantastic group of friends who consider me as 'family' who have helped, and still help me through the tough times.
My own remaining family, if one could very loosely call them that, and I haven't spoken to each other for over 15 years, no loss to me btw, but they were about as much help as seatbelts on a motorcycle anyway.