If you really loved her once then you should be happy that she is happy, isn't?

I feel your pain. After losing both parents, 3 brothers-in-law (to divorce), a sister to a brain injury and then divorcing who I thought was the love of my life.... I go through some ups and downs. I really don't like friends telling me what my ex is doing.

My ex has a delightful girlfriend I’ve met several times, and I am happy with where I’m at now. The divorce was good for both of us. It helps me greatly to focus on that, not our past.

Brought to mind, when I would revisit my old life, by checking to see if ‘he,’ was still there! He wasn’t...and then I remembered you can never go backwards!

You will probably now show up on her account as someone she might know.

Right......not a good idea. I tried it a couple of times but realized that it was against my best interests.

I wish I could find my ex-boyfriend to see what he looks like today. But, alas... he is not on FB (or maybe it's private). That way, maybe my thoughts of him will go away.

I hate that feeling of "I know I shouldn't do this, but I can't stop myself from doing this." FB often brings that up. Glancing at an incoming txt on ex's phone was the start of finding out ex was cheating on me, which ultimately ended in divorce. I'd rather know than not know, but that was 4 years of hell I didn't need.

A dear friend once told me
'All relationships have a beginning & an end. Some are fleeting and only last a short time. Others last a lifetime. Where each relationship falls on that timeline one never knows, we just make the best of it and the best memories possible. It is ok to remember the good times just don't let those memories get in the way of making new memories.'

My current wife looks up my ex occasionally and man has she not gotten any better ooof

Walk away, man. Don't gouge scissors into a wound that is healing.

I think you have to do what you have to do to get over things. I obsess over things as well.