If you are in a relationship and could have sex on the side and be guaranteed not be caught, would you do it?
If it involved lying to my partner, then no, I would not do it. If it were a choice, I'd rather have honesty over monogamy.
Honesty is good....borrowing from the Bible..."Satan is the father of lies."
@nicknotes I found it interesting that Satan and hell were not originally a part of the Hebrew/Jewish faith, but were Zoroastrian beliefs that were added in after the Hews/Hebrews were conquered by them.
As far as honesty versus monogamy goes, Most people who were cheated on say it was the lies that made them feel more betrayed than the actual cheating did.
No - because if your side partner lives under the same arrangement - your coupling could expose your significant other - who you've now down graded to less than that - to a bunch of STD's and other shit that she quite likely wasn't prepared to deal with.
Good point, but I'm assuming nick includes using protection as part of not getting caught so that would mean no STDs being passed on to your partner.
And as a public service announcement: women in the over-62 age bracket are, and have been for over a decade now, the fastest-growing "new HIV" victims, according to the CDC in Atlanta....Google it or go to their site.
Very good point. STDs are a terrible curse to inflict on another human being....certainly not on someone you love.
If I am in a relationship then we have already talked about the possibility of sex on the side. I will not lie, consent and honesty are far to important to me to lie about something so banal. I am extremely picky about partners, those I choose to share my life with, and they wouldn't lie to me either. However, being open and honest about one's desires is part of every relationship that I have had for the past decade. There is no scenario where I will have sex with someone that my partner hasn't met or at the very least hasn't been made aware of and given their permission. This eliminates the whole "getting caught" thing, keeps everyone happy in the relationship, and allows for us to have discussions about sex and desires without any fear that those desires will somehow taint the relationship.
I think you are correct...it is important to establish "ground rules" before entering a sexual relationship.
Wondering when we're going to hear from nick.......
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There is no such thing as guaranteed not to be caught.
I'm usually in open relationships, and the idiots still feel the need to cheat. Newsflash...... if you insist that you aren't seeing anyone and then get outed, that's cheating.
That's an intriguing concept...