is this site a waste of time to find a date
Don't hate the player....hate the game.
The odds are good but the goods are odd....and live far far away. Maybe try the produce isle at your local high end supermarket....say, "heeeeyyyy girl, what's tricks? You here to mildew or you here to barbecue?' Works everytime.
Use the membership button to find people near you who are within your designated parameters, then start reading their posts and profiles, join in their post conversations, and when you find someone with a lot in common with you, whose profile indicates that you would be compatible with her expectations also, private message her to see if she enjoys conversing with you. If all goes well, ask to meet her for a cup of coffee, your treat.
Best answer
Yes. You should delete your account immediately and never come back.
Yes, if you look grim in your main photo and don't write an interesting profile.
That's true with all dating websites.