I think those who access the site via an icon on their phone or mobile device might consider it an app. I prefer the larger screen of my laptop, so I consider it a website. I can access it through my phone via the icon and still consider that to be the mobile form of the site. I would guess that anyone calling it an app is likely using a mobile device, rather than a computer, so it's a "apt" word I guess.

@Moravian

"App" is a catch-all word. It's confusing. Now my computer calls features like Windows Fax and Scan "apps." To find a program or feature, I must "Search apps."

What the hell? It's confusing.

On my smartphone, it turned out I needed to download an app to listen to voicemail. This used to be a built-in feature on cell phones.

"How do I access my voicemail?" I asked, frustrated, at the T-Mobile store. "You have to download an app," the clerk replied.

"Which app?" I asked. "Will you please download the correct voicemail app on my phone?"

She did it in five seconds. "Senior citizens are the only people who come in asking for help with their smartphones," she said unkindly.

@LiterateHiker Love it. I don't own a smartphone only an aging Blackberry because I like the little keyboard for texting. I'm ashamed to say I wouldn't recognise an app if I tripped over one.

And voting the UK out of Europe. If there is another referendum maybe a lot of them will have died off in the three years since the last one

Right on

As simple as this, my favorite answer!

@ToolGuy

I changed "having sex" to "watching porn."

It's sad that young men believe porn that degrades women is the way to have sex.

Thanks for the link to the article.

@LiterateHiker

Young people are still getting together to have sex. I think the kids these days call it, "Netflix and chill". It's when you hook up with someone for sex and then watch movies or play video games between getting it on.

Then again, "Netflix and chill" may be old school terminology by now. It's hard for a wrinkly old raisin like me to keep up.

@ToolGuy

Thank you for your insightful reply.

Which book by Brene' Brown did you get?

@webbew1

"Wrinkly old raisin like me" is hilarious! Thanks for the laugh.

@ToolGuy

Of course, you need to ask yourself why business as a couples counselor was going so well for you. If women really wanted men who understood intimacy, closeness and vulnerability then they'd be involved in relationships with men who understand those things and kicking the rest of the pack to the curb.

It seems to me as though the men who possess those traits don't tend to fair so well In the dating and mating game, being labeled with traits such as "pussy", "wet noodle", "wussy", "wimp", "nerd"..... The list goes on and on.

It isn't the quarterback of the football team sitting at home alone on prom night.

I would attribute current human dating and mating habits to left over remnants of the ancient hunter/ gatherer societies prevalent when we were living in caves and still being driven mostly by instinct.

When it comes to our dating and mating behaviors, we're still being driven mostly by the reptilian brain motivators which dictate that the physically strongest, most aggressive and brutish male members of the tribe represent the preferred mates because they are most able to protect and privide.

The fact that we've invented airplanes, toaster ovens and xbox and built ourselves fancier caves to live in doesn't change who we are at the core of our being.

Perhaps when you counsel couples it would be helpful to take in to account the base instincts which drive us as humans. It might help these folks to better come to grips with who they are and why they drift towards the relationships that they do.

@webbew1

I have never liked brutish, aggressive men. Jerks.

Instead, I am attracted to highly intelligent men with a great sense of humor. The mind is the greatest sex organ.

Am dating a medical doctor who is kind, patient, highly intelligent, funny and an extraordinary lover.

A competitive bicyclist, Bill is extremely fit and 10 years younger than me.

"You are my dream girl," Bill said recently.

@LiterateHiker

"Am dating a medical doctor..."

Ah... money. The great equalizer.

@ToolGuy

While I will agree with you that, as in anything, there are no absolutes and that exceptions do exist, you still need to ask yourself why couples counselors do such a brisk business and one of the primary complaints of the woman in the relationship is that her partner is not vulnerable enough. Until you can come to grips with why the woman chooses the aggressive male over the sensitive one in the first place, I don't know that you can truly help couples to better understand each other or to manage their relationships.

@webbew1

In his plane, Bill flies me over the Cascade Mountains where I love to hike.

"Where do you want to go?" Bill asks. I love it!

@LiterateHiker

Nice! Sounds like a blast.

Note to all younger guys just entering the dating pool....

If you're not the assertive or athletic type, put your nose to the grindstone and get rich. Really stinking rich. Become a successful doctor or architect or attorney or pick up a guitar and get really good at it.

That's the way you can even the odds in the dating game.

@ToolGuy

Sure I did. YOU are my supplied supporting data. You and every successful couples counselor who has purchased a weekend cabin at the lake or a top of the line Harley Davidson motorcycle with the fees they've collected from $120.00/hr. counseling sessions.

If we were talking about research in to the aspects of the human mind which allow us to formulate the mathematical concepts that explain particle physics, then yes it would require a more in depth discussion, complete with applied research and source quotations from experts in human brain physiology and psychology.

But we're talking about base behaviors here. The part of the human mind which functions purely on instinctive reactions developed over millenia of evolution.

So the question becomes, if x number of couples are seeking counseling, and y number of female partners in those relationships are complaining that their partners aren't demonstrating enough vulnerability and intimacy, then what core instinctive human behavior leads the female partner to choose a mate with such characteristics?

If couples counselors can answer and come to grips with that question, then they can do a much better job of helping couples to understand themselves and lead happier lives.

Attempting to add complexity where none exists accomplishes little. Human mating interactions are not complex. When it comes to this particular aspect of ourselves, we are still living in caves and hunting our prey by throwing rocks at it.

@ToolGuy

It seems to me as though we're running around in circles at this point, ToolGuy. There's really no point in moving forward with this conversation.

I believe that core, base instinct behaviors and reactions are set in stone and invariable. As far as I'm concerned, attempting to change base behaviors in romantic pairings rather than helping each partner to understand why they behave the way they do is an exercise in futility. It's attempting to pound square pegs in to round holes, and to me it falls in to the same classification as "so called" gay conversion therapy.

You clearly believe otherwise.

@webbew1

People can grow and change.

So are half the users on this site. I'm not sure it's a really big difference