I just had my very first child, a beautiful baby girl... I'm not married but the relationship is super great... My daughter is my only blood family... Just saying. I get along great with the daddy... Any advice for a new mommy in a new relationship? I've been with him for ten months...
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Keep you finances separate, make sure he's on the birth certificate, sleep now so you can at least remember what that's like, and remember to care for yourself as well as her.
Good luck!
1of5
Level 8
July 6, 2019
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Thanks... All that is done 
CB, from what youve posted over course of last year, it seems like Frankie has been there for you. I know at one point he wanted marry (if I am remembering correctly), but you weren't ready. Now that Jillian is here is Frankie still standing by you? I know his catholic family is a challenge.
Having said all that, the question remains, what level of commitment to want and need now? Do you have any questions or nagging gut feelings that Frankie is not commited.
Close your eyes and think about Frankie. Is there any thing that causes discomfort in your stomach when you think about him. Any regrets or hesitations. If not thats a good sign. If yes, is it something that can be overcome. Nothing is a absolutely for sure or certain. One generally knows in their gut if its not right, the red flags that eventually become something insurmountable. This is a difficult time because, with the new baby there are so many emotions, feelings, and hormones. Take your time, be sure one way or the other. Don't hurry.
t1nick
Level 8
July 6, 2019
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Oh yes, Frankie is standing with me 100% and he loves Jillian very much... My gut isn't telling me anything bad at all... He's totally involved in the relationship and with raising baby j... His family has been wonderful... The religion thing isn't a problem... Thanks for the advice...
Be honest in all aspect of life. Call it as it is. There should be no taboo in a couple.
Michellefrusa
Level 5
July 6, 2019
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Congratulations to all three of you - what a wonderful time in your life!
My advice for you now is kind of like my advice for life in general: listen to and/or read to any information you can find, and then go with whatever fits well for you, no matter what the naysayers and statistics say.
Lauren
Level 8
July 8, 2019
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I can't address the romantic aspect, but I would point out that exactly one of those relationships will definitely be a constant in your life for the rest of your life.
And congratulations.
CallMeDave
Level 8
July 6, 2019
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Yes, baby j will always be a constant...
New mommy; Pop out another one or two asap. It's very lonely being an only child. New relationship;I got nothing 
But I know you'll be fine.
freeofgod
Level 8
July 6, 2019
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My son is an only child and very happy that way. After visiting cousins with three kids in the family, he has plainly said he likes being the only one.
Not to be contrary or anything...
@CallMeDave , my daughter is an only and she hates it. I guess it's it's a personal thing. We have a very large extended family and she has a slew of first cousins. She spent weeks with them growing up. Still close to most of them.
I would say Try to do new things and also things you both like, When you disagree talk about it. Try and always Keep the Relationship on the Positive
ScienceBill72
Level 7
July 7, 2019
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Kate I don't know what you two have discussed prior to Jillian. What do the two of you want?
sassygirl3869
Level 9
July 6, 2019
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We both want to get married eventually but I still think its a bit too early for that... Maybe ill change my mind since Jillian is here... Not too much pressure to marry from his family... But that may change soon...
@Cutiebeauty you know you have my support and can talk to me at any time.
@sassygirl3869 yes, I appreciate that Lisa..
@Cutiebeauty , Marry when you are ready. You seem to be level headed.
@freeofgod thanks I don't rush...
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