Married 35 years, dead bedroom. We are good friends and I have no other family. Divorce would be bad economically, and we have an open relationship. I'm polyamorous.

Thanks. I've read that, but in my limited experience have not found a woman who didn't like it.

@EdEarl some women's clits are so sensitive direct stimulation has the opposite of the desired effect - unfortunatly - but they'll tell you about it before you get to work.

Youth are ignorant that's why they go to school, to become not ignorant. When I was young sex education was taboo, and there was no internet.

"complete pieces of hobo train trash"

LMAO!

Speaking for myself, and I am unanimous in this, (a nod to Mrs Slocombe from "Are You Being Served?", an apt title for the British comedy and this thread), I absolutely love to go downtown! Some women have expressed their satisfaction, and some others have not so much. Maybe it was a run of bad luck, but none of them has ever offered direction or feedback in the moment. Or afterward, for that matter. I have always tried to be open and receptive, encouraging my partner to ask for what she wants...and to no avail. The worst is the one that said, "I really don't care what you do." At that point I did exactly what I wanted to do, and that was to get dressed and leave. I sure am not asking her to worship me for going down on her, but a little teamwork goes a long way.

So, Finchi, if that guy won't do it on his own, be sure to ask. If he won't when asked, throw his ass back on the first train outa town! A lady has a right!