Sorry you had that bad experience. Live and learn.

"If you are a Trump supporter, hit the back button NOW" is in my profile.

It also clearly states that I'm an atheist.

I suggest if you don't want a repeat experience to change your dating profile from agnostic to atheist. Most religious people think that when people represent themselves as agnostic there is some hope of their being converted to their faith, because they see agnostic as just doubting that god exists, rather than actually not believing. Atheist sends a clear message of not believing. Religious people have great romantic fantasy lives and believe that they can change and convert people "if only they hear the(ir) truth".

Don't feed the fantasy. I strongly suggest that you change your dating profile to atheist

Rule of thumb... never date a theist and most do not understand what being an agnostic or atheist is so they say, until the reality check comes to slap them in the face and then they turn on you. I stay clear of anyone saying they are religious.. don't need that shit in my life and its only going to cause issues farther on down the line unless they say up front to you they don't partake in the rituals of the dogma.

I use the word Atheist because is much more clear with no room for ambiguity.

I told my last boyfriend I wasn't a believer and he seemed okay with that.

Then I used the word Atheist and it all made sense to him.

Most religious people think that if you are an agnostic and they are a believer it means you can believe too once they explain their god and religion to you. Of course, only their religion is true. All the others are some sort of nonsense. To them. being agnostic simply means you have not heard enough god arguments to make up your mind.

I simply tell people that I'm not a believer. That usually doesn't get misunderstood, and their reactions are instant and tell you all you need to know.

She must've thought you came from Agnostica. Surely you don't want someone stupid?

Yep, I've run into many people who don't understand "agnostic" or "humanistic" or "freethinker" and so on. Yes, it's a good idea to state the definition of "agnostic" at some point in communication, before traveling 375 miles to deliver the definition in person. Good lesson learned - and thanks for sharing it!

Sorry you had to go through that. Happened to me once and now I always ask before meeting. So much for “love thy neighbor.”

I’m sorry your wife passed and I hope you find what you’re looking for. Be cautious.

So the lesson was don't drive 375 miles for a date?

I know it's scary to bring up subjects that might "queer the deal", but things like religion and politics are significant indicators of personality. My profile says prominently: "if you like trump you won't like me".

Have to admit, I get almost no messages. But the women who message me are always politically compatible.

That was a full day of driving with no payoff. I guess it is good advice to discuss religion before making any commitments. I don't suppose she gave you any gas money for the trip home.....it would have been the Christian thing to do.

You drove 375 MILES each way. What the fork?!! All I can say is WOW! My range limit is 50 miles. Was it Angelina Jolie? That would've explained it.
Anyway, damn, sorry it didn't work out. 750 miles, I'm still in shock.

Labels are killers, just say you're a non believer.

Been there-done that! Not 700+ mile part, but definitely seemingly led on to believe we had similar belief system. Some people live in a different world. I am now very forthcoming about religion AND politics. No need to waste each others time.

Sorry you had to go through that but better now than later.. but sooner would’ve been better, eh? This certainly makes the case in favor of putting your Dealbreakers right out front.
Better luck next time!

I think you had an easy escape.

"When I stated that I had quit believing in God about the same time as I found out there was no Santa Claus", why didn't you simply say from the start that you were an Atheist instead of an Agnostic?

Sorry to hear it. Not all Christians have a broomstick up their touche. My late wife was unperturbed by my budding apostasy later in our marriage. Our relationship was not constructed around church activities, but around each other. But more fundamentalists than not, don't understand the distinction.

Wow does this resonate with me, I recently got divorced after a long marriage, It was not bitter or hateful, but one of my constant refrains was " I don't believe in Santa Clause" . Along with the Catholic church knew about and condoned abuse of children for almost is Entire history bothered her. One of my life goals is to continue to learn and strive for Humanism. The challenge is being able to forgive an person the can support a: Liar, Hypocrite, Duplicitous, Mendacious, Bigot, Racist, Misogynous, Narcissist, Megalomaniac, Immature Bully, and frankly Not intelligent enough to use Critical Thinking - and still say they are Christians. Shame on all of them!!!!!! almost 50 % of the American voting public. Anyways I apologize for getting on my soap box. I am having similar experiences with the dating scene.....

375 miles is a long way to drive - each way! - to get belief-shamed. Sorry that happened to you, partner. Hope you had some fun on the trips. And now you have a valuable piece of experience to guide you in the future. Learn, and then live on. Best of luck, and may harmony find you.

Your telling me after talking on the phone you were a coward and just wanted to get laid. Is you crazy?

I had the conversation with my girlfriend when we first met online. She is a witch but spiritual. We have talked about me being an atheist and her beliefs. We do not agree on all aspects of spirituality but she does not believe in gods. So we now talk about our beliefs to understand each other but do not hold said beliefs against each other. We have been dating 4 months and she is the most wonderful woman I have dated!

A lot of Christians are in denial, as well, thinking they'll be able to convert you somewhere along the way.

Valuable lesson never date a fanatic thesist always a nightmare