As a relative, you can call the nurses' desk on your dad's ward & get your own updates.
So sorry you are being extra-stressed & she is not respecting your requests!

Nasty situation be patient she's still your mom, give it time perhaps she will eventually get her senses back. In the meantime hope your dad recovers

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Hi my friend . I think u are going to have to learn to ignore her . Breathe , ignore , breathe , ignore . And smile . It does not matter . And I hope dad gets to be healthier soon .

I am so sorry that you are going through this, I had no idea she had gone in that direction. My mother took a similar turn in her later years and it was very hard for me to deal with.

The current lack of commonality with one's Mom with whom previously you shared principles could put one into intense inner conflict. If you once loved each other, my urge would be to know how her totally opposite thinking began. If you cannot get an answer, I think you may need a bit of help from a psychologist, because the complete lack of understanding from your Mom could cause you a lot of PTSD. I think I would ask a counselor about coping mechanisms to try. You can even hire a psychologist online who can counsel you by phone. The situation you're in seems quite difficult to handle alone.

I'm not saying that I can relate to what you are going through, because I can't honestly say that.

I have a older brother who once was considered the black sheep of the family. I looked up to him for being different and somewhat rebellious. All of that changed when he was diagnosed with emphysema. He became an ultra-conservative Christian and a Trump supporter. I can't pretend to understand how or why he changed. I mark it down to fear of his death sentence and because of his abrupt change, we barely speak anymore except for niceties.

Your mom sounds like her fear has overcome her and is also showing signs of Alzheimer's. I don't know if this is true or not, but the way you have described her personality changes leads me to say this. I have had firsthand experiences with two family members who had Alzheimer's and both changed dramatically from the way I had known them. I simply put up with them and played along as best as I could.

This is my 'take' on your situation.

Rant as much as you need.. Then break something!

Your relationship with your mother sounds very similar to my relationship with my father. But, I put up with his bullshit a lot more than I like, but I have little choice if I want to spend time with my mother, who I get along with well. There is no good solution but life is full of shit you have to put up with.

Vent away, I I think a lot of people here understand. It sucks to be prayed at, and good luck.