@evergreen
You are sabotaging yourself and any potential relationship.
Checklists are useful when yu're going camping, getting your camera out, maybe doing spring cleaning. Things like that.

What few things are really feal-breakers? For example, I could not have a long-term intimate relationship with a conservative. Just wouldn't work.
There are some ings I might not like in a partner. But I am not her and she is not me.
I might have made different choices than she did but, then again, we all usually make the best choice we can under our present circumstances and mental state.

I don't know that I have any real deal breakers that are set in stone. My biggest qualifier is that we can be friends. If that happens, then the possibilities are endless.

ive noticed in my travels the ones with the most qualifiers are the ones with the least pleasing qualifications themselves
I agree with many of those on your list but its subjective depending on the current candidate
personally I know my taste is all in my mouth so at this stage I don't want a relationship im good
just an occasional good f**k

I have some qualifiers, or disqualifier that I would add to your list.
No kids at home and all kids being independent and responsible citizens.
Live in the immediate metro area, I don't do long distance.
Be reasonably organized and tidy.
Be able to take care of his own stuff and have stuff in porportion to the available space, ie no hoarders.
Must tolerate small children

Mine, female, same age or younger, nice person,

My list is much shorter.

Smoke- please no, I have lung problems
Take care of themselves- I can if they need help
favor the guy in the White House- DEEP NO!
Drink or drug to excess- No
have teeth- I'm missing some so no biggie
know how to spell- Yes
smell pleasant- Haven't many that don't
welcome learning- Big yes
like animals and nature- Another big yes
have control of their finances- As long as in debt for being stupid
avoid judging others- depends if its a republican-see number three
have a "personal relationship with fantasy"- if they come under seven I can work with that
read- Big requirement as I do all the time
have an open mind- Yes
stay fit- I can't so not a biggie
practice kindness to most others- Yes
and now add :
counter "Black lives matter" with "All lives matter" - totally missing the point.Not sure what that means?

Sure glad I enjoy my own company !

If the person you are looking for is to be the "one" you spend time with to the exclusion of others, it should be hard to fill.

Smoke-no
Take care of themselves-sorta
favor the guy in the White House-Trump’s a scumbag
Drink or drug to excess-no
have teeth-yes
know how to spell-of course
smell pleasant-you tell me
welcome learning-naturally
like animals and nature-I have two cats
have control of their finances-yes
avoid judging others-most of the time
have a "personal relationship with fantasy"-I read fantasy, but I don’t believe it.
read-naturally
have an open mind-open to what?....of course
stay fit-trying to get there
practice kindness to most others-yes.
and now add :
counter "Black lives matter" with "All lives matter" - totally missing the point-Black Lives Do Matter. Of course they do. It’s sad that we have to insist on that.

Good Hygiene-
Intelligence-
Female-
Do not assume that their take on the infinite is the last word; tolerance-

What does it mean to have a "personal relationship with fantasy"?

Da Lists,,, Da reason why you are still single! #NoLists!

Recently attempted dating outside my very similar list. It led to nothing but meaningless sexual experience to try to simulate some real connection. Kinda disastrous. But, lists wouldn't have served evolution well.

I smoke
I kinda take care of myself...I think I do anyway
Sometimes but not right now
Drink or Drug to excess.......Never at the same time
Have nearly all of my teeth
knov huw to speil
smell REASONABLE not to bad
Hate Dogs
Love Cats
My Wife has control of my finances....
Avoid Judging others unless they deserve to be judged
have a "personal relationship with fantasy" (WOW Jennifer Lopez rocks)
stay as fit as I have always been
practice kindness to some others

I think you are spot on, but then I'm a raging liberal that doesn't smoke. If a woman tells me she supports MAGA, shows any kind of racism, or, at my age, doesn't like dogs, then it's sorry, gotta go. I'm not a White Knight, I'll help anybody on drugs (been there), make sure they are fed, even listen without judgement, but I'm not bringing them home. Unless it Sofia Vergara, I'll take that hit.

I was separated for about 3 years and was dating a little. Met someone in a similar situation and there were instant sparks. My big three were (and still are): Non- smoker, liberal, light drinker. She didn't meet any of the qualifications. She was a heavy smoker, hard drinking, conservative, born again Christian. We had a blast for about 4 months, and then her guilt led her back to her husband.

I think with chemistry, you can look past anything in the short run. A lasting relationship takes love, trust, and compromise. If you have to compromise on your core beliefs, resentment will soon take over and there's no way for the relationship to survive. You have to stay true to your core beliefs, and find someone with the same core for any chance at a lasting relationship.

Most of the things on your list are a good start (some re iffy). Food choices is another item or at least be open to a different way.
Don't care about the smell part just so long they don't smell bad. Actually would prefer someone who doesn't use perfumes.
Emotional stability is a biggie.
We all judge others (repulicans, tRump supporters, rabid christians and so on) so why not have someone who is 'normal'.

Not bothering. I should write a book with my attempts and massive fails I've been told. Maybe if I ever have any down time.

That list is not any different from what mine would be, for the most part. The only real difference is that I am not looking for a partner. I have no desire to live full time with anyone.

Must love my 2 Service Cats Kiti7&Laila10

I prefer living out of the closet writing poems singing songs and taught exactly how to love she who chooses me for a lifetime not a throw away encounter..... old fashioned courtship and new fangled art technology..... finish the job Yoko Ono started with John Lennon...
.love is giving peace a chance

everyone judges people and many other things as it helps keep us safe. It looks like your going to be alone then.

I agree with you fully only I do have dentures. Some people don't give a damn about themselves enough to have them. I see more and more people today who only have 4 or 5 teeth. Disgusting!

Somebody call a wambulance. Wouldn't you want to date a like minded person?

what the heck does this mean? "have a "personal relationship with fantasy"? Do you want this? Or not want this? why is it a necessity or deal breaker?