No.

Do as you wish, embrace the spirit of Ubuntu:
“I am because we are.”
You earned the right to be part of him living on so long as it helps you heal and live.
I am sorry for your loss.

Sorry for your loss. My MIL had the stones from her wedding and engagement rings reset into her “none of your business “ rings. (I never heard “the rest of the story&rdquo. I have mine on a shelf in the living room near her wedding portrait. Whatever works for you.

No, you’re not wrong ..and it’s impertinent of others to tell you otherwise. Firstly let me offer my condolences, 5 months is a very short period and especially since it’s been during this current COVID crisis, it must have been extremely hard and isolating for you.

There are no rules for widowhood..we just do what we’re comfortable with. It’s not as though you’re trying to defraud anyone or pretend that your husband is still alive by using the stamp...it’s just because it has a practical application, and it’s your business whether to keep using it or not. As for the rings...once again that is for you alone to decide...in my case I have been a widow for 10 years and still wear both my wedding and engagement rings. Some people can’t stop themselves from commenting and interfering...my advice is to ignore them and follow your own inclinations to do whatever feels comfortable and practicable.

Thank you, everyone. I will continue to use the stamp but I will purchase labels for all letters I send to his surviving sisters. I can see how it might be painful for them to see his name on an envelope.

As for the rings, I will wear them until I decide to pass them on to our .

Not at all. You alone chose how you want to present yourself. Unless and until you are ready, there is no reason to change. If you change just to suit others, you are cheating yourself.

I'm so sorry for your loss, and for the awful illness you and your husband had to go through. I’ll reiterate what so many wise people have said here about you grieving your own way, in your own time. Many people, particularly after long marriages, never stop wearing their wedding rings. Some, like my mother, made modifications (adding stones) so it didn’t appear quite so much like a wedding ring and she intends to wear it until she dies. I wore mine well over a year after my husband died.

I’m not sure what compels so many people to give unsolicited advice on things they know little about, but I’m going to be gracious in thinking they have your best interests at heart. That doesn’t mean you can’t tell them to back off with a firm, “Thank you for your advice.” or “That’s something for me to think about.” And it's only been a couple of months! You're perfectly in line to also say, "Back off (or fuck off), it's way too soon for me to be thinking about those things!"

As for the stamp, use it until it wears out. It’s not uncommon for women to keep their late husband’s name on public things to lend the appearance that there is still a man in the house as far as security is concerned.

it is only 5 months, that is far to soon to make Any changes,or try & deny yourself whatever gives you comfort.
At some point you may be okay with wearing your rings around your neck, selling them & taking a nice vacation, or getting a new address stamp from Staples (about $10) but that is strictly Your decision!
Please be wary of those who tell you what/when/ how to grieve......a year is considered the proper grieving period & no major decisions should be made during that time.

Tell them to shut the fuck up , it's your life

Nope! Doesn't matter what anyone thinks but you, and it obviously gives you comfort to wear your rings and use the address labels for the home you shared jointly. He is still a part of you and you should do what feels good and right for you at this time, and adapt if life changes make you feel otherwise.

NOBODY gets to tell you you’re wrong about your life choices — and choices that don’t even impact them, by the way. If these things bring you happiness or comfort, you should be able to use them without others sharing unsolicited opinions.

If/when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know when the time is right.

Probably not, as long as you know how to cope, and help others cope (if they are of genuine good will), when they don't think he has passed away yet (if you want to tell them). If you had explained this to me - about the stamp - I'd have been happy with it (being a bit pragmatic) and the thought of people bossing you about alarms me.

Oh and the rings: they are yours and remain yours (far more than the stamp) and anyone that wants to steal them off you is in the wrong. Totally up to you anyway.

Your life, your grief, your way. ❤

No. You will do what is right for you. As time passes, those decisions may change.