Why don't old, liberal atheist men corner me a Walmart instead of old, conspiracy theorist Christian men suffering from the Kruger Dunning Effect?
The evangelical mindset is by nature rude and pushy since the point is forcing your beliefs on others; there is also the quirk of human nature that the less confidence you have in your position the more you will defend it. For example, it's old school common sense that rather than disapprove of a child's dating choices, it's better to stand back and let them figure it out for themselves.
I’d corner you to ask your opinion on a ripe melon.
@Gwendolyn2018 I wouldn’t want to bruise your melons.
I wonder if in addition to it being a number's game (more theists then atheists) if a flawed (entitled) mindset of many male theists, (man is better then woman therefore woman needs a man to be complete because god endorses the man to be the leader over women. The old “Thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” (Gen. 3:16.) Some feel this is demeaning to women, and some men use it as an excuse to exercise unrighteous dominion.
I'm proud to say I have never set-foot in any Walmart.
The Bible is full of references to long flowing tresses so maybe you are just picking up those Xstian dudes who grew up with a long hair fetish - it certainly seemed to work for Crystal Gayle. My wife has longish hair, past her shoulders and she gets a lot of looks from the local men who's wives have long since moved to the football helmet cut as it is easier to maintain and discourages unwanted advances.
Just a theory and like all theories it may be off the mark.
I have little choice but to avoid Walmart since there isn’t one in my county, nor in the other two adjoining counties here in the SF Bay Area.
Could be because liberal men avoid Walmart as much as possible too.
Because they just don’t read cues. Why they vote for the most unqualified candidates they can find.
cuz it's Walmart?
@Gwendolyn2018 Unfortuanantly, I fear that trait of the area in which you live is largely representative of the curent state of our nation.
Try the public library, the ones there are more likely to be literate. I used to volunteer, they loved that I could shelve the non-fiction using the Dewey Decimal system hahahahahahahaha. But seriously, I met some interesting people, one of them retired from the Jet Propulsion Lab. As a bonus you can filter them by the books they choose.
@Gwendolyn2018 I am upfront with men that I know would not be suitable as romantic partners and have made good platonic friends with a few. Honesty is the key.
@Gwendolyn2018 Sometimes it works, sometimes not. I know it's a possible friend if they look me in the eye and not stare at my chest. Second requirement is not mansplaining. Third is returning my power tools.
@Gwendolyn2018 Maybe they forget about "it" when they see the compound miter (chop) saw in my garage.
One of my platonic male friends got married and his wife is suspicious. I laugh and tell her that if we haven't gone there after 17 years it's safe to leave us alone. I was happy he found someone.
Maybe you're just not shopping at the right Walmart dear
Speaking from just my small circle of old, atheist, liberal men: We don't go to Walmart.
@Gwendolyn2018 Naah, we can come up with a much better meeting place. I like to use coffee shops for my first dates.
@Gwendolyn2018 Your observation is (unfortunately) quite correct. So many men will take any opening (pardon the pun) to hit on a woman. I'm so glad I had a mentor when I was a teenager who taught me how to be "cool" about approaching women.
@Gwendolyn2018 That last sentence is painfully correct. At our ages (yours and mine), typically the female desire falls off much faster. Even though I have a wonderful partner, she encourages me to avail myself of the Asian ladies here who provide relief at a reasonable price.
@Gwendolyn2018 It's good that you have a clear picture of how you want you life to play out. My "contract" with my S.O. is much more mutually beneficial than most. We serve each other in a way that both of us are happy with. Also, we share the cooking & cleaning in a way that we both like. Essentially, nobody has to do anything they don't want to do. Sometimes we're both just lazy as hell. But sometimes we have the energy to do stuff.
@Gwendolyn2018 <<just knowing he was in the house was bothersome>> Yes, I have also known people whose very presence was irritating. But then, I also get a little lonesome after a certain period of time along. After about a week, something clicks inside and I start feeling like I want to feel somebody.