My ex was insecure about a classmate in grad school. I suppose I should have been flattered. That woman was waaaaay outta my league.

Accused. Not Guilty. Happened more times than I can possibly remember. She ended up cheating on me.......

I had one relationship full of a lot of jealousy but not any outright accusations. I wasn't guilty of doing anything wrong. Some people are just a bit insecure

Not outright accused, but "suspicioned." Ungrounded. I ignored it.

My last on/off relationship of 8 years was full of cheating on his part for the first 6 of those years. He falsely accused me often of cheating constantly throughout our relationship. I feel it was his way of trying to justify his actions. I was true to him while we were together, but he would never believe it. I finally got tired of his accusations and his secrets and ended it. I prefer honesty - even if there is cheating - the way to handle it is with honesty, compassion and understanding, with support in a plan to make changes to go forward or split.

Yes. Wasn’t guilty, never did that in my life, wasn’t believed. What do you do? Impossible to prove a negative. Happened twice. Stout party exits stage left.

First husband did it all the time. I finally decided that if I'm going to be constantly be accused of having one then I might as well prove him right. We separated shortly after.

Never accused, but totally guilty. (No, not really.)

Nope. And nope.

I was accused time and time again which caused me a lot of anxiety and stress. In the end it turns out she was having affairs. Been with two men with another four in waiting lol. Forgave her after confrontation as I did love her only to find that she then carried on screwing one of the guys for another 3 months before she decided to go off with him as her true love and saviour. Three months later she begged to come back and stupidly I did out of misguided pity and then two years on she has gone off with another disaster waiting to happen. Immune this time and feel nothing but loathing for her so free of her for ever now.

Yep, a few times in a couple of relationships. It can get pretty draining.

I'm sure it often comes from a sense of insecurity, maybe even past experiences and I try to be understanding but it can be hard work.

Yep. Yep.

Yes.

I have a track record, so I have no reason to be upset. But, it pisses me off anyway. And REALLY makes me want to cheat.

I am intrigues by the terminology: accused, guilty, cheating. This vocabulary sounds awful and belongs into the criminal justice department.
Perhaps people should start changing the language and take the sting out of a matter that is ultimately very nice. Well it should be.
Perhaps there is too much of the idea of possession in relationships: my, his, her's etc.

No, no one has accused me, because I've never cheated on a boyfriend. I guess I am loyala like that, but some exes weren't loyal to me.

Yes, I reacted by getting pissed off, he was an abusive psychopath and would assume I cheated any time I did anything.

Yup I have been accused ....my reaction we spend all our time together how would I do that ? Also I can't handle one woman two would be impossible ......and finally frustration as she kept accusing for years

Yes - I have been accused.

No - I was not guilty.

Looking back at that moment - I regret my innocence. The girl was a bitch, and having a fling would have been a damn sight more enjoyable than remaining with her.

My ex husband used to accuse me all the time, but he was the one spending all his free time in strip clubs. His excuse? He used to bounce at these places so he knew the owners or managers and they let him play pool/drink for free. Um.... ok.... sure thing.

You should ask this question of someone who is very experienced in this regard...ask Donald Trump.

I have because my ex-had been abused by her father. she took my trust and changed it into me not caring. I went around a young ladies about breeding our dogs and she made more of it than simply what it was. the young lady later made it clear she fancied me but I said that's not my fault but it didn't work.

Accused(not guilty) and abused by a sociopath. HE was cheating, beginning to end, it turned out.
I thought about having an affair once; instead I broke up the relationship I was in before starting another.

Yes, by my ex girlfriend. She would say things like have fun with your ex girlfriend or have a good time with your ex wife tonight. She actually accused me a few times. After a short time, it got very old

Never accused. No affairs. Why do you ask?