So, it's a been quite some time since I've even considered dating. Like nearly a decade. I'm not sure I even want to date. I'm pretty much to the point in life where I'd just like to talk with like minded people. Though, I have a question in regards to dating: What do you see as flirting/how do you define flirting? I ask this because apparently some folks I work with thought I was flirting with/had a crush on one of my married co-workers. That was in no way my intention. I thought I was just having enjoyable/friendly conversation with a person of the opposite sex. When did talking to someone become flirting? Did I miss something?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I find it hard to tell what flirting is at times so think people's definitions of it might be all over the place. It sometimes feels like "was I just flirted with? naaaa" and forgets about it...
If you felt you weren't "flirting" then you weren't. I used to get told I was flirting with people all the time during reminiscing-fests and it blew my mind as I wasn't thinking that way.
So unless you can recount the dialogue it would be hard for anyone to put it through a "flirt filter" of sorts, tone also matters.
Qualia
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May 14, 2018
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I honestly don't know. I've been widowed 11 years and have not been romantically drawn to anyone in that time. Yet, I've been repeatedly accused of threatening marriages, luring boyfriends, flirting. Why would I flirt if not attracted? How can common conversation be so mistaken? It's maddening. No real advice here, but plenty of sympathy.
Zster
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May 13, 2018
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It's tough when you have been out of the dating pool for a long time. This is a very different era and very different way of things. Flirting to me is expressing appreciation for someone's attractiveness and personality on a male/female (talking hetero here) level to express interest without creating an awkward situation where real expectations are involved.
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May 13, 2018
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