HIghly laudable actions although there seems to be an element of conditionality, i.e. expecting something in return, for your freely given gift of assistance. One can't prevent anyone from doing something just because they would rather they didn't, regardless of how beneficial the outcome would be. Probably a little ungracious to 'move on', but attempting to lower your expectations of her may be a more successful strategy for you to accept the situation and not feel victimised here.

My deseased wife's family did the same to me after her death....21years down the tube. Move on. People for the most part are fake.

You're a wonderful friend. Sometimes people are not grateful. Sometimes others don't value others.

My feelings would be hurt also. A meetup for coffee would take only an hour. A call would take only 5-20 minutes. A couple of text messages setting a time to together would take only minutes. Regardless of her risks of relapsing, you have behaved like a true friend and she undoubtedly appreciated that while incarcerated, but she is not (yet) reciprocating the friendship. Ouch.

Distance might be the best thing until she can learn to stand on her own. Her duty is to herself right now, not to worrying what others think or need, if she is to emerge the person you care for. Do not take it personally!

People often feel shame when they have received charity. It's the same with borrowed money - once you lend money to even a good friend, that person will often avoid you, afraid you'll bring it up.

Maybe you might be better off if your BFF never contacts you again.

Even though it isn't your fault , it may be possible that seeing you is a constant reminder to her of her poor choices . It may also be possible that she's been told , by her parole officer , that she is not allowed to be with friends she knew before she went to prison .

I think you have several actions and issues to consider. First is whether or not to make the first move to contact her. Second is to decide what you'll do when the requests start again -- because I'm reasonably sure they will. The fact that she hasn't contacted you is troubling from the perspective of her future, and I can absolutely understand how you would be hurt. But it takes two to be friends. If you're the one who is always reaching out and being the helper, it isn't a friendship, in my mind. I don't envy you. It is hard to realize and deal with the idea that someone you care about (as a friend or any other relationship) just isn't going to reciprocate the relationship.