Man, is this how the dating scene is going to be? I'll extend my bird-watching sabbatical for a bit...

Trust is the keystone of all relationships. Cheating destroys trust, two cheaters beginning a relationship together have an infinitesimal chance of success.

Jerry Springer stuff

What a fuckin' mess.

Couldn't deal with it. I'd extricate myself from a clusterf*** like that in a nanosecond.

There both dirty dogs and cheats. id keep at arm's length on that one.

Hmmmm.... never date married men... or married women....no. no.

I would disconnect myself from all of their bullshit immediately.

Sounds like a script for an Aussie soapie.

This paragraph-less wall 'o text was TL;DR for me. But from what I can gather, your friend is extremely immature and un-self-aware and naive, while still managing to be self-absorbed. I wouldn't even know where to begin, honestly. She's a child.

Wow. I got lost back at the word "cheating." Well, once a cheater, always a cheater. This is a bad predicament.

She's deluding herself and is heading for a massive heartbreak.

Sounds like they should all have a party and swap car keys.

The answer is no and did you really have to ask, like its not obvious.

Real love means being honorable. Neither is being honorable. They're perfect for each other in that regard. But love is not there.

I think they all may be able to get on Jerry Springer.

No, it doesn't sound like love.

Sounds like a mess that she needs to extricate herself from. Keep in mind these are her choices and her responsibility. It sounds like you have given her some sound advice but it is up to her to decide if she wants to follow it or not.

Oh the tangled web we humans weave.

Your friend needs to resign to the fact that she ain't nothing but a side chick to this married man that she's screwing around with.
She's flirting with disaster and she continues down this path...
The results are only going to be catastrophic.

She needs to cut the shit and stop messing with that married man.

WTF... Do let us know when it ends how it ends... Sounded like a soap series. Very interested to know the climax

What a drama, Some girls just live for it, I also have a friend in a similar situation. And wtf lady what are you doing? Your friend should leave the guy she is with now, and leave the married guy alone. But I think some women are scared to be alone and stive off drama.

Obviously not love, but if one has a need/desire for drama in their life, this is perfect. It's not for me. I got tired just reading the story.

I think your friend and her married lover are selfish and immature and they deserve each other. Of course, he will never leave his wife. Guaranteed.

That is not love, that is pure drama for adrenaline junkies. There is nothing healthy going on there anywhere, and I wouldn't even want to be an observer on the sidelines of that.

See, all this trouble comes of the western practice of monogamous marriage.
In Thailand, Haiti, and other places I've lived, marriage is more a legal contract for more upper class people for purposes of inheritance, etc.
Most of them get married for children, but both spouses take side lovers, often of either or both genders, since many are bisexual.

In the US, many liberal and/or LGBTQ couples have open relationships, and those often seem to be the healthiest.