Is this true for you?
The headline reads, "Cockolding may be positive for some couples, study says."
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.No. If my partner is with someone else, then I’m not with them.
Gatovicolo
Level 8
Feb 4, 2018
6
I agree. Really really good sex comes with the attachment and learned nuances between my partner and I.
I can’t see how any romantic relationship can work without fidelity. If my gf, wife or lover either feels the need to get something more or has zero respect for my feelings, then there’s just no point. @EllenDale
@Gatovicolo Respect should be paramount.
Agreed @EllenDale
No, I hate any form of dom/sub relationship because I've had both sides (where a girl wanted to boss/dominate me, and a girl who wanted me to dom her) and I always craved the peace and support of an equal 50/50 relationship again.
ChrisR
Level 6
Feb 4, 2018
6
Ah, normalcy! Nice to meet you!
Cockolding..is that taking/sending photos of senior cocks?
Charlene
Level 9
Feb 4, 2018
4
The headline from where? Not sure what 'cockolding' is.
Cuckolding is allowing (or fantasising) your wife or husband having sex with another. Originally from the Greek and something that Aphrodite did.
If people have an open an honest relationship and both consent, then that is their business. Not sure if it's for me at present, but it hasn'e bothered me in the past.
Uncorrugated
Level 7
Feb 4, 2018
6
maybe cockholding
Which did cross my mind! 
So true! Unless they call me to clean up, I truly don't care.
No, but I have had friends who lived the 'Dom' lifestyle. And it seemed to work for all of them. But I think they were all drama addicted, because there was so much drama involved. Made them feel important, I think.
JohnnyThorazine
Level 7
Feb 4, 2018
4
LMFAO. That exactly what I found --drama queens, the lot of 'em.
I have an acquaintance in such a triad. It has lasted for more than 20 years. It is preferable to passing along some disease as anonymous sex encounters could facilitate. Personnally I don't get it. The dom is not dom because he can not have her to himself & is grateful that the sub shares her. The sub is not sub because he holds her legally & is the father of her children & makes all of the decisions. So I guess sex is just a release of a fantasy that is only a reality in the boudoir. Living polyamourously is quite a challenge as one partner is difficult enough in my vanilla world. But who am I to question as it works for them. I am just disturbed that I know about it. I try to avoid the details but the dom likes to force it upon me hoping he could make it a quad. I usually go running and screaming and jump in the lake.
Mooolah
Level 8
Feb 4, 2018
3
LOL. I had friends in that kind of relationship who wanted me to join. I declined as nicely as possible, but he got so angry he physically attacked me. He was 25 years younger than me! No way. Sometimes it's not the desirability of someone. Its the unattainability that is enticing. I'm already a prize. I don't need to prove it or spread it around. I no longer speak to the husband or wife or any of the next 3 sister wives they've had in the last 7 months. 
To each its own... I don't even know what that is. Couples can do whatever they please on doing.
GipsyOfNewSpain
Level 9
Feb 4, 2018
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"Vanilla" means, bland, conventional.
I agree!
While I am not personally attracted to men who like being cuckholded, I can see how it would be positive for some couples.
Whether it just be a fetish for the husband, or is related to a medical issue like ED, it seems like a win/win for everyone - the wife gets to try new cock and the husband gets to enjoy watching his wife being pleasured.
To each, their own!
bmchizzle
Level 5
Feb 4, 2018
2
I have read a few of your post as I scroll and I really love that you go totally against the social norm. Everyone should live the life that they want to. Life is sad in the way that you only get one. Nonbelievers understand that and spending your life conforming to the ideas of others is a waste of the one opportunity we have. I live in Georgia and I feel like I am surrounded by Christian clones. Everywhere I go I hear “have a blessed day”. Today I had a new fridge delivered from Lowe’s and the delivery men wanted to check out my Rottweilers they are beautiful and large scary lovable animals. But one of them tells me about how he used to fight Chihuahuas. My first thought was what an awful thing to be into and then I thought you’re lucky you’re not in prison, if Michael Vick can’t escape prison then you can’t either. The same man who enjoyed watching two little dogs ripp themselves apart told me to have a blessed day. And that is the thing about Christians I can’t stand, they have trained their mind to think that when they die there will be streets paved with gold and ofcourse all the other perks that come with heven. And still be able to break all the laws of decency. Even if Heaven were real how would one expect to have things both ways. But anyways keep being you. I enjoy reading your posts, you are not fake and I like that, it is refreshing. This picture explains who they want you to be.
I agree. Many LGBTQ couples have open relationships because of being bisexual, and feeling attraction for both genders.
From what I've read, "swinger" couples can improve their relationships, if they follow ground rules.
For example, if the relationship seems stale and either of the couple are feeling restless, allowing threesomes, and/or seeing other people could prevent divorce.
I was shocked when I was first married to my ex..out of nowhere, after having only had vanilla relationships with past "rabbit sex" straight male partners, I suddenly became this playful dominatrix, with whips, handcuffs, ropes, fantasy play, uninhibited frolicking. I was even more shocked when he loved it, begged for more, and would take turns swapping gender and domineering roles.
For the first time in my life, I found out what sex was for.
With cis straight men, sex = getting to their own orgasm as fast as possible, then trying clumsily to make me orgasm also, forcing me to "fake it" to make them stop. It was boring and annoying.
But now I knew what sex was for..pleasure! Creative play and fun, spinning it out as long as possible..no more "rabbit sex."
As it turned out, we were both LGBTQ, since he came out as a bi nonbinary female last year, and I realized four years ago that I'm androgyne (mixed gender traits) and a partial transmale.
My new theory is that couples with mixed gender traits = the most interesting love lives.
birdingnut
Level 8
Feb 4, 2018
1
As they say on Family Feud, "Good answer!" However I disagree in one area. People who have amoured in more than one country (read ME) = the most interesting love lives! But as long as we're satisfied with our own sex life (pun intended), we're all winners! It's not a contest, it's life, sista.
@SilverDollarJedi
LOL! From an evolutionary point of view, that's so. And that's what religious people have always said also - they used to preach that one only has sex to procreate.
But I already reproduced my husband and I..a boy and girl, so the rest is for fun.
@SilverDollarJedi If it were only for procreating, there would be no need for a sex drive in men or women past a certain age. There are many women whose sex drive returns to their 30s level (the sexual peak for women) after menopause. There's more involved than releasing sexual tension for all ages if permitted.
??? Cuckholding = cheating
Yet the replies relate to dom/sub?
And there is no link to the article on my screen.
Help!
AnneWimsey
Level 9
Feb 4, 2018
2
A guy that accepts or enjoys seeing his wife with another man. tes from the cuckoo. A parasitic bird that lays its egg in another birds nest & has those parents raise the offspring. Consenting adults? Fine. Non consenting=adultery. Do not go to a porn site to see this in action. It will disturb your sleep....or maybe not. Either way I don't get it. But then I am a prude.
They've since corrected the spelling--LMAO. Got more response from a nonsensical word! Great fun!
@Countrywoman I gotta get out more???
@AnneWimsey You are braver than I am.
Honest communication is positive for all couples. I'm not into cuckolding, but it's great for those who are into it.
SensualAva
Level 6
Feb 11, 2018
2
@SensualAva I agree--each to his/her own.
So Cuckholding MAY be positive for SOME couples
Doesn't that headline fit for just about everyone and everything?
Some knife fights may be positive for some people
Some cigarettes may be positive for some smokers
I can't imagine it working in my current relationship.
But, I can see the concept being ... enticing.
So it could be positive for me if I were part of some other couple.
phil21
Level 7
Feb 8, 2018
2
It wouldn't work for me.
@EllenDale For some reason, I was thinking of this last night and I'm wondering if the term means different things to different people. I can see being ok with my partner having sex with someone else. Is that swinging or cuckholding? I think it might be even fun to watch.
But, I don't think I'd enjoy it if it was a "domination" situation.
I don't mind trying things for the novelty of it, but this doesn't sound like anything I'd want to make a habit of.
Now, the inverse, OTOH... What's the word for when it's the woman watching?
I was never brave enough to try any poly stuff. In a larger community where you can find more people who are into more things, I would have higher confidence in finding drama-free, seasoned participants. Not around here, though.
Meh. I like not being confined by shame-based sexual mores, but my tastes are mostly vanilla.
stinkeye_a
Level 8
Feb 4, 2018
2
@stinkeye_a I'd rather watch porno with my man than see my man pleasuring another woman. I'm just a bitch like that LOL
@EllenDale I've always been "the kinky one" in my relationships, but I'm just barely kinkier than average. I think more than "kinky" I just like trying different things, and have no sexual shame to hold me back. The desire to watch my guy with another woman was about as far out as I ever got. Whatever the fantasy is, it loses 100% of its steam for me if I know my partner would be more than the tiniest bit uncomfortable doing it. And it doesn't bother me. What's most important to me is that everybody have a good time.
What is cockolding?
Sarahroo29
Level 8
Feb 4, 2018
2
@SchuylaRDiamond more labels to learn... always a label for everything.
@SchuylaRDiamond So it was misspelled? I got it now. Thanks.
@Sarahroo29 As a true English person, I should have pasted "cockolding [sic]". I'd rather be known as some pervert for posting the headline than making an English research mistake!
@SchuylaRDiamond whatever makes your job easier and truck is a constant road for office. Tough job. And without labels... who gets what?
No im vanilla really
LeighShelton
Level 8
Feb 4, 2018
2
It's nice to know sprinkles are there if we need to up the ante, but if it ain't broke, don't fix it.
lol
@LeighShelton Maybe French Vanilla, great taste!
maybe. to be honest, i have never been with a woman who didn't have hangups about there body.
@LeighShelton Standards are high when your gender is rated on the physical. I don't have any hangups, but my next lover has to be blind, hahaha.
very true lol
whatever water floats your boat sail away on that shit. Cuckolding to me is like dubstep a bunch a people seem to jam out to it these days but all my ears hear is an orgy of kitchen appliances. I don't get it but I see to many people enjoying themselves to be hating on it.
Meowzine
Level 4
Feb 4, 2018
1
Nope, no need to go into detail.
silverotter11
Level 9
Feb 4, 2018
1
Yup!
Of interest : The word cuckold derives from the cuckoo bird, alluding to its habit of laying its eggs in other birds' nests.The association is common in medieval folklore, and literature.
In the late 14th century, the term also appeared in Geoffrey Chaucer's "The Miller's Tale". Shakespeare's poetry often referred to cuckolds, with several of his characters suspecting they had become one.
One often-overlooked subtlety of the word is that it implies that the husband is deceived, that he is unaware of his wife's unfaithfulness and may not know until the arrival or growth of a child plainly not his (as with cuckoo birds).
evergreen
Level 8
Feb 4, 2018
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