What is worse, cheating or lying?
Whould you rather be with a loyal liar who lies about trivial things or cheater who hides what they do?
Cheating and lying are both evading the truth. I don't see much difference. I don't want either one in my life. The Catholic church had a few things right, there are "sins" of omission and "sins" of commission. Both are not behavior I want to put up with.
How can you separate the two, cheating is lying!
Agree.
If they'll cheat 'with' you, they'll cheat 'on' you.
It is somewhat amusing when someone is shocked....SHOCKED when the two-timer two times them.
Thought it was true love this time...ehh?
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A cheater is a liar, and a liar is a cheater. And both of them are thieves, as they steal the truth and force a false reality upon those they lie to or cheat on, making the ability to make well-informed decisions concerning them impossible. Liars, cheaters, thieves... same thing.
I fail to discern the moral or exact meaning, to cheat is to lie.
There is no such thing as an “honest cheater.” Hiding what you are doing is lying. Telling someone that you love them and are in a monogamous relationship when you are unfaithful is lying If a cheater was honest about their cheating, then the partner is consenting to be in that relationship, so it’s not cheating, it’s non-monogamy.
I agree
@Unity There is no such thing as an “honest cheater.”
What if they're up front about having random casual sex? I've know women who asked the best question ever: how about both of us?
Currently, Petunia runs them off with a broom. I've been too honest with her. She spent too much time reading my cross referenced leather bound address book. It has entries like "Verlene: also see Suzi."
That'll teach me to marry a Southern Baptist.
I'll take option c). Neither
Definitely wouldn't want to be with a cheater, but why would someone lie about trivial things?
What is an example of a trivial lie you'd be okay with? That they had salmon for lunch, but said they had tuna?
That's still pretty weird.
"Do you like my new hairdo"? "Yes dear". And that is just one. If someone shows me a picture of their baby and it is ugly, I will certainly lie and tell them how adorable their baby is. No one is 100% honest. No one. If you do find someone like that, I will guarantee you they have no friends.
That's certainly a fair point and good reason to withhold an honest opinion. I would not classify that as a trivial lie. To me that suggests the truth doesn't matter so it's "no big deal" to lie about it.
In the example you gave, it's an act of kindness, with no intent to deceive and the answer does matter.
What do you think?
>why would someone lie about trivial things?
One does not want to join the club of those of have said "No, the dress doesn't make your butt look fat. You got a big ass. The dress has nothing to do with it."
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I'm not for trivial lies where the truth would be just as good. If someone was late because they stopped to run an errand versus having to stay at work late, lying about it is unnecessarily deceptive. It also suggests you don't value honesty, and I'd wonder what other lies are being told.
In the case of not telling someone they have a fat ass (you silver tongued devil) it is being kind. That is not to say you couldn't be honest with the person in a different context, but there are ways to deliver hurtful information.
In this case, I will tell you honestly, do NOT open up your own charm school.
@Athena In the case of not telling someone they have a fat ass (you silver tongued devil) it is being kind.
Petunia grins like a mule eating briars when I tell her get her scrawny butt in gear.
It's a case of being too kind.
Both are bad and the same. I force myself to answer your question but my answer is always the same: none of them, thank you!
They are both negative reactions.An niether is better in a relationship in my opinion.
Seems they are one and the same.....attempts to get something for nothing....same as stealing...lying, cheating, or stealing....saying "only a little" doesn't change what you are. That being said...to strive for perfection is a virtue.....to expect perfection, in yourself, or others, is irrational
We all lie about trivial things. I recently read where the average person lies three times in a five minute conversation. And, of course, there are always the white lies we all tell to keep out of trouble.
Aren't both the same? If you're cheating on someone, chances are you've told some sort of lie to facilitate it or cover it up. Even if somehow you've managed to cheat without explicitly lying, you're lying by omission because, in my opinion, just by being in a committed, exclusive relationship, you are tacitly saying to your partner that you are not physically or emotionally involved with anyone else.
It's all prejudice....you tell me, which is better:
a. Faithful partner that will have you killed to collect insurance, keep your wealth, whatever...
b. Promiscuous partner that will be there for you when you are sick, broken, desperate, lost, etc?
Yes!
They are both bad. I wouldn't want to be with or around either.