Bill has a long history of women complaining he doesn't spend enough time with them, including his ex-wife. I joined the chorus. His pattern is to resist.
But I could not resist a parting shot after Bill ghosted me. Today I sent Bill a text:
"Bill sounds like a fool to me," a man on Fitness Singles (MountainLover) replied.
I had written:
"Auugh! So much for Bill. Working full time as a medical doctor, he is an obsessive, competitive bicyclist. Local police offered him an additional part-time job that he's always wanted, flying search and rescue missions in their plane.
"The result: no time for me. All he wants is sex, anyway. So much for Bill."
Now you are ghosting me, cutting me off with no explanation. This is immature and rude.
I will give your birthday gift to someone else.
It's your loss. Other men are eager to be on my dance card.
As a cyclist, my advice is steer well clear of cyclists. Cycling is not a hobby or a sport; it's an extremely addictive drug very much like heroin - it will end up consuming all their time, money and thoughts, leaving them a skeletal shadow that can think only of their next hit (unless they specialise in sprinting rather than climbing, because sprinters tend to be quite beefy).
More seriously, you're going to find someone better than him. All relationships require a little compromise; it sounds like was unwilling to do that.
I'd say mostly true of competitive cyclists, I've known some that clearly were addicted. Riders who just love simple, elegant transportation are frequently a little more sociable and less obsessed.
He dosen't deserve you.
Thank you.
Damn - that sucks. So much for being a good lover, eh ? I've heard this tune before, those in medicine and law enforcement generally have a bitch of a time maintaining absentee relationships, and tend to go through many ...
Happy fuckin' birthday to him - boo.
(for that last line, you can add "women" too . (grin)
Thank you. You're right.
"Happy fuckin' birthday to him - boo" is hilarious! My thoughts exactly.
Well! It is one thing for him to end a relationship because he has other commitments. It's another thing to just ghost! Especially since you have had a relationship for awhile. Just immature and rude. You deserve better. Always a learning process. Onwards and upwards!
Today I deleted 1,376 text message between Bill and me. All gone.
That felt good.
Didn't you two go through a rather tumultuous time awhile ago? Then he reappeared. What will you do if this cycle is repeated?
Live and learn. Resist.
Yes, I dumped Bill twice. The first time was in January 2018.
In March 2019, Bill sent me a text:
"I miss you. One of the happiest memories in my life was when you took me snowshoeing up in the mountains."
The next morning: "It's a beautiful day. I flew to Wenatchee to ride the Apple Capital trail. If you can come to the airport, want a ride?"
I love flying with him! Happy dance
"I'll bite," I replied, amused. We were so glad to see each other, we started up again.
@LiterateHiker
It appears to me that your ideal partner, and who you're seeking, is "James Bond". But we all know James never settled down with anyone..... Well, there was that brief marriage to Ms. Moneypenny.... but she died rather abruptly. So... watch out LH!
Bill is 10 years younger.
What I wouldn't give for a physically fit, late-in-life Adonis with a good brain and a sterling sense of humor!
Audition #1:
Just talked with a fit, intelligent and funny passionate hiker for over an hour. Met Mike through Fitness Singles.
He is the author of "Trekking Washington."
In a week or two, Mike, 63, will come to Wenatchee to meet me for lunch and a walk. We are waiting for my toe to heal more.
Hopefully, we can do an easy hike like Ingalls Creek trail.
I am only surprised it took this long. You have it going on, big time. He does not. Plus he voted for f-ing trumpie.
Ok.. My thoughts. I'll preface this with stating I really like you, your posts, lifestyle and personality. Wish we were neighbors. And I've followed your adventures for "awhile".
In my humble opinion, you continue to set yourself up for failure in your relationships with men. Not an uncommon pattern with any of us. So, unless you respond for clarification or details... I'll leave it at that.
Don't blame me. Over the years, I have met dozens of men who are commitment-phobic who just want sex. It takes awhile to figure this out.
I LOVE flying with Bill over the mountains! He is highly intelligent and hilarious. Conversation and laughter is high on my list. He is extremely fit and an exceptional lover.
That's what I will miss, especially flying.
@LiterateHiker
Ha! (Sorry). Who else is there to blame? The things that attract you to Bill are great attributes. But I see nothing about commitment, wanting a long term relationship, monogamy, or anything else that might indicate a desire for permanence.
It takes time to figure out if someone is a good fit for a long term relationship. With some men, I can tell in the first 10 minutes.
Bill has enough good attributes for me to give it time, see how it goes.
Especially as we get older, we need to decide what tradeoffs we are willing to accept. Bill has three cats. I loathe cats. Cat dander triggers my asthma and allergies.
"It would kill you to sleep at my house," Bill said. He came to my place.
@LiterateHiker If you will miss the flying, get your ticket! You'll find it even better than flying in the right side. Woman make great pilots!
So you were not a priority above patients and hobbies you knew he had.
And he wants to do search and rescue missions.
Wow.
Guess it's time to give Stuart a call back.
But, seriously, Dr. Bill sounds a tad self-absorbed. He's a physician, a pilot, the cops want him to help them fight crime -- if he can walk on water and resurrect the dead, I'd say Jesus has returned.
And you did him. Your place in Heaven is secured.
I am so sorry to hear....but you know what is needed for you to stay in a long term relationship...
I really don't think you deserve to be treated the way he treated you.
I did a bit of hiking this weekend in the Lower Saint-Lawrence Appalachians with my girlfriend and some friends and I thought about you.
From what I've been reading and seeing about you these last months on this site, speaking in a friendly manner and with all due respect, you truly look to me like one very fine lady, definitely a keeper.
I hope that life offers you as much as I think you have to offer. Hugs and smiles from the other side of this continent.
If you think about it...it is easy to see the problem...he is still working and has many interests ..I'm not sure if you are still working, but you have a needs mismatch. You may have more time and be interested in a partner. He has less time and has other interests. I am sure you do as well. He wasnt interested in more than an occasional companion. It had no legs .