Is sex incredible if you climax? If your partner climaxs? Both?
Is it incredible based on who you're with? Whether or not you're in love?
Is the type of sex important?
Usually for myself its the longer i can delay the climax the better it is, i prefer to be emotionally close to the woman, naughty love making with lots of creative stuff, oral is always great from both ends giving and receiving, what is good for you Mea?
I'm a pleaser. As long as my partner gets there, I'm happy!
@Mea Be careful here. This can cause SPA (Sexual Performance Anxiety). This is real. Check it out on Webmd.
@commander42, thank you for your concern--luckily I haven't had any issues. I just really enjoy making my partner feel good.
@Mea thats good to know, i like that in a Woman. Keep things creative and interesting, try new things
Having that extreme mental and emotional connection with someone that you deeply care about.
The fact that I am having sex is incredible.
If I can still remember it three days later, it was incredible sex.
As long as we both finish and have good food nearby after ?
A partner usually helps.
Some of my best sex has been partner-free. I'm really the best judge of what I like.
@Ruby_Slipper we have a lot in common.
@Ruby_Slipper Dito. I can achieve a double simultaneous O alone, but have yet to achieve one with a partner.
@MarlaPaine Sometimes the goal isn't orgasm. Sometimes it's just to feel good, to feel connected with your body. Orgasms are certainly enjoyable and a nice result, but it's not always the reason I have sex - with myself or anyone else.
Oh boy. I suppose its good sex if both people get some degree of pleasure out of it. Climax or no climax. I don't necessarily have to climax. If she is smiling or laughing i know she is getting some enjoyment which gives me pleasure. So really the pleasure comes from the close contact and the camadarie.
Me at least once, them at least twice and we're surprised by how late it is when we stop from exhaustion. Being able to look in their eyes during to say, and mean, "I love you" takes it to a next level.
@BSquared Unfortunately, I have difficulty reaching a second orgasm. I can stay in the post orgasm pleasure zone for a long while though so I still enjoy extended sessions. For some reason I need a reset, as in no stimulation for a period in between. It's all pleasurable though and plenty thrilling just the same.
To me the best sex is when all those involved experience emotional, physical and mental satisfaction. When the pleasure extends further than the genitals, further than the body and in to the pleasure centers of brain. Meaning the congress is memorable for more than the orgasm and is genuinely recalled with genuine affection years and even decades later.
I have been lucky enough to have had sex like that perhaps four times in my life, two of them were with my wife and two with other people, prior to my 2nd marriage, non of them involved my first wife.
For me, LOVE is vital, I have never had sex with a woman I didn't deeply love.
I like tons of fore play, maybe even days of it, then slow, relaxed undressing each other as our heart beats in sync. As the kissing and touching starts, we both forget about every other thing in life, all that exists is you wanting to please her more than yourself and her the same. As our sweat becomes united and drops as one, we too become one, with each other and the universe simultaneously.....and of course, multiple orgasm for both.
When a man actually LISTENS when I say what gives me pleasure, and RESPONDS appropriately.
This is rare.
@irascible, "Good luck with that!" is all I can say.
Over the years, I have only had three extraordinary lovers. The majority were mediocre and a few were horrendously inept.
I hear yah!
Sex? What's that?
Lol....you know where you put the thing in the thing
There's only good sex - there is no bad.
@Lincoln55 Well then you should stop being so selfish in bed.
Pheromones, hormones, experience, preferences, trust, communication, all make for great experiences.
Personally I wish all girls would receive vibrators for a birthday present at the age of entering puberty. They then can learn about their bodies. Have sex safely without fear of pregnancy or stds. Are more able to resist the advances of the overly testosterone surges of the male sex. It is easier to resist when one is not horny, to put it bluntly.