Why do most people crave attention?
Maybe it's a lack on their part of self-awareness and consideration of others' reactions. Maybe they just don't give a rat's ass. If they did, they would shut up when they see me zoning out and edging away. But they're just on stage all the time telling you a life story you never wanted to hear..
I truly do not understand why. I have no inclination , will often feel embarassed if given attention in a large setting. As an example ,here is a group of teachers who dress up every Friday to greet students. They will often be 5-10 minutes late to their duty (15 minutes long) in order to complete their outfits. Then they post their pictures all over Facebook. Don't get it.
I'm guessing most people crave attention due to an Innate survival technique related to the desire for food and subsequent clean up.
Some people can get really "look at me" but I've toned it way down for this website on the advice of my psychiatrist.
There is a range of traits that have proved useful.
Great question, given we are all one, Unity.
Because they can!!!
Too too many think they deserve attention, warranted or not!!!
Most value themselves according to how they think others see them . Captain of the football team gets a lot of positive attention and dates the head of the cheer leaders . Kid delivering papers gets little to no attention and may be considered a looser . Can't get a date for the Prom .
I give up.
Why?
I asked the question to get a better understanding of a desire that I have very little of.
@Unity I don’t understand my species. On the freeway I drive slow or fast to avoid clusters of cars that keep flocking with my vehicle. I refuse to go to crowd drawing events. I was going to force myself to attend Pride in 2020. This upset the Universe so much it found a way to keep me home.
@Willow_Wisp i get that. I don't even like it when someone drives the same speed as me in the next lane and I'm stuck behind a truck. Mobile claustrophobia!
@Unity I'm with you on that. When my friends are planning a party, they always say, we know you won't come, but just in case... Because they know that I always want to be invited. I just don't want to go. Parties require participation, and I try to keep my profile so low I'm almost invisible
I used to tell my China students that America is so enamored with stars, celebrities, entertainments that we are a kind of performance society. Stage savvy and the attention we get is a very desirable factor in our self-image.
Possibly for the same reason you felt the need to post that question
What would that be?
@Unity
You don't know?
Well I would guess the need to interact, but I am certain you know why you post, for me to claim to know your mind better than you do would simply be gross temerity on my part.
Rather than a negative problem (loneliness, etc) it seems like a normal human need. A baby’s cry for instance. Some people need less than others. There are also extremes on either end of the spectrum. Some people crave too much attention and some avoid it so much they cannot leave their homes.
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