What's so bad about a clingy girlfriend? Isn't it good that she wants to always be around you? Where does the discomfort come from?
My best relationship was with a girl so clingy, my mother named her "the tick". And I loved it! Why do people complain?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Maybe because co dependency is not healthy. Research it to see for yourself.
demifeministgal
Level 8
July 29, 2020
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wikipedia not a reliable source mate.
Try reading this instead: [theravive.com]
Clingy girlfriend? That sounds ok to me.
BitFlipper
Level 8
July 24, 2020
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@Radu I like strong, independent women, but I don't have choices about who likes me.
Space , I personally need and want my space to do the things I enjoy . Clingy equates to me as insecure personally.
Outsideit67
Level 7
July 24, 2020
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It is the difference between mature love and Immature. Does she love you because she needs you or she need you because she loves you. Clingy is a sign that she needs you, because she doe not know how to fulfill her needs herself.
Mermaidfantasy
Level 7
July 24, 2020
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To me clingy says she cannot separate from you and do her own activities. I like alone time. I don't want you in my sewing room to distract me or get in my way when I am working on anything. Clingy says he/she wants all your time and attention, and presence, like a 2 year old who is not feeling well. Clingy says I must be the center of your attention. I'm sorry, go away, I have a good book. Entertain yourself, and when we come back together we will have things to talk about.
HippieChick58
Level 9
July 24, 2020
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@Radu To each their own, that would not be a good situation for me.
Often because it is Boring! I had a woman friend once who was very nice. She was intelligent, emotionally stable and had lots of good qualities. But she always wanted me to set the path and never took charge of what she wanted to do and after 6 months I got tired of being the 'leader.' Some of us want a woman with brains and interests and knows how to be assertive in what she wants and feels.
JackPedigo
Level 9
July 24, 2020
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Clingy and close are different things. The former is a sure-fire sign of immaturity, insecurity, and likely, stunted intellect. No thanks.
Mitch07102
Level 8
July 24, 2020
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Men and women both can be clingy. But if either is very good, I would love her to be clingy. No problem here. People complain when the partner is not very good and he or she still want to be clingy. Is anyone complaining of having too much of good?
If you re talking about clingy in PDA, it is a big problem for me.
St-Sinner
Level 9
July 24, 2020
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@Radu
Yes, PDA bothers me. For two people in love PDA is unnecessary. If they really love each other, there are many acts they can do in their non-public life that can deepen their love and develop a lot of gratitude by the recipient. That's how I believe love matures.
I am also not a fan of PDA because I have seen how some do a lot of PDA in front of others to prove how much one loves the other, some seem to have an obsession with it. I have not seen any of of those examples (seen with my own eyes) living together for more than 3 years.. none. Therefore, I wondered why wouldn't they work on their relationship first before showing off to public? To me, PDA is a shallow act.
There are many societies around the world that no concept of PDA but have a belief that real love needs real actions that don't have to be public. My wife was so much into both getting well dressed, attending functions together, clinging on to me wherever I went and talked to people in the party, taking pictures together and so eager to come home and share pictures with friends and family here and overseas immediately but.... not once cared for what bothers me, how my day was at work, how our finances were, what I was doing for the future, should she could contribute to our life and so on. Never a real contribution to the relationship but a lot of eagerness for PDA. Never made me happy.
If I see PDA from a matured couple which has lived long life together, gone through ups and downs together, stood by each other... their PDA is sweet to see. They apparently communicate about a long relationship together and the PDA suits them.
As for how women would or should feel, I would not know. I gave my opinion as a man.
Clingy to me sounds like insecurity and an attempt to control, which are not attractive to me.
Affectionate is attractive.
One can certainly be very affectionate without being clingy.
itsmedammit
Level 8
July 24, 2020
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@Radu I would feel suffocated with that much attention. Yes, it is a control thing.
@Radu Maybe the term attractive is confusing in this dialogue and means different things for different people. When I say attractive, I am referring to the entirety of the person, so presumably I would be with someone that I found attractive. That would mean intellect, humor, common quirkiness and so on. And it would probably also include a quiet nature. I am a well adapted introvert and prefer the same. Someone who is constantly giving attention is actually also demanding a lot of attention. That would not be the type of person that I would be attracted to.
Come on...you know it's all relative. If you were less attractive and she more so....she wouldn't be clinging. Get over yourself.
Robecology
Level 9
July 24, 2020
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@Radu I think the "clinging" needs to match for a decent relationship. If you define her as "clingy" and you're not...then you're not quite as satisfied with her as she is of you. I predict failure soon unless you work to be more "clingy" or have her work to be more independent.
@Radu So she was looking at you as a baby maker...and apparently you weren't buying in....good for you!
@Radu Again....bold of you to avoid "fathering"...it takes a wise and selfless man.
Too much of a good thing?
Cutiebeauty
Level 9
July 24, 2020
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