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I think it takes a while to really love someone. I've had two men that I almost went out with (not from dating sites) that declared feelings for me that were way too much that early. That stresses me out and drives me away.

Cabsmom 8 Sep 25
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Level 8

I think to declare love that quickly is a really bad sign. From my experience, it either means that any woman will do in a pinch, or they're not happy with their lot in life and are after your money,house or your stability.

Kojaksmom Level 8 Sep 25, 2018

Exactly. I don't want to just be a female body that fulfills their emptiness. I want to be with someone who knows me for a while and STILL wants to be with me.
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Level 5

That kind of weirds me out a bit too. Especially when you meet someone online and have never met face to face. How is this possible?

Ktruin Level 5 Sep 25, 2018
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Level 8

They declared feelings for you? Like they outright said they were in love with you?

hippydog Level 8 Sep 25, 2018

One said it outright after a day and a half of flirting. He also didn't respect my boundaries. I blocked him.

The other sent a GIF that said it. We are still friends. We met in person.

There are a lot of crazies in the dating world..

@hippydog, the first one I think might have been a little off his rocker. The second one I think is just lonely and maybe a little desperate.

If a guy feels like he's falling for me that quickly, I really wish he would hold off on communicating that because it truly stresses me out.

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Level 5

Someone has been writing to me for five months
Says he is too shy to phone
Has never asked me out
Lives about an hour train ride away

Julieanne Level 5 Sep 25, 2018
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Level 7

Always follow your gut instinct, its sense is rarely wrong!

rcandlish Level 7 Sep 25, 2018
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Level 8

I had a guy propose to me after playing an online word game and chatting over a couple weeks. He really needed a mom for his motherless little girl. It was really sad.

Justjoni Level 8 Sep 25, 2018
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Level 8

I want to make a joke about being in love with you but I realize it's not funny and also that you're right.

I would think it's funny
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Level 7

Mmmmm ive experienced that as well But have also meet people with a strong connection but distance was a fking pain in ass

EvaV Level 7 Sep 25, 2018
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Level 8

Of course, love grows or not, but chemistry is quick to decide lust or meh.

EdEarl Level 8 Sep 25, 2018

It’s the mistaking of lust for love that’s off putting to me. Honest lust is not a problem.

@Justjoni Honesty is sometimes difficult to swallow, but is best we aren't deceived.

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Level 7

BTW, will you marry me?

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Level 7

Agreed, some need to be in a relationship so much they'll jump into anything they feel comfortable with while ignoring the fact what they're comfy with is horrible for them.

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