I have talked to her. She said go for it, but I'm not comfortable she means it down deep.

@UserID Sarah, that is sage advice, and while honest communication is important, it is necessary to limit unwanted information. It is my responsibility to tell a potential lover about my wife. I've made it clear here, and I shall continue elsewhere.

I'm not an expert on human nature, and don't have a silver tongue. Walking a tightrope between two women is a frightening prospect, but I am eager, too. In addition, turn about is fair play; how well can I handle that. Though, she says she isn't interested, she may change her mind. Nothing others haven't been through, so I can manage.

I've watched self help videos, but haven't been to a counselor.

Hope your Hodgkin's is in remission. I once thought I was overeating because of food addiction or emotional eating. However, I was wrong. I was eating the wrong foods, which prevented my body from getting nutrients it needed, because when I started eating more vegetables, a rainbow of vegetables, my appetite decreased. With decreased appetite, I stopped eating between meals, and eat less during meals. Before eating a rainbow, I could eat a foot long chicken Subway with chips and pop or beer. Now I eat half a Subway and feel stuffed, without the chips and beer. I have considered cutting the 500 calorie Subway in half (making two 3-inch sandwiches). Last night I had a large salad for dinner, and some dark lightly sweetened chocolate, which was about 350 calories. I didn't get hungry, and that made about 800 calories for the day; though, I usually eat more than 800; I rarely eat more than 1200 calories a day. It's truly amazing what the rainbow vegetables have done for me.

My growth started because of successfully loosing a hundred pounds. If it happens again, I may be impossible to hold on the ground.

Thanks. I'm taking metformin, which doesn't make you hungry, and has an added benefit. Metformin increases life span, even in people without diabetes. Calorie reduction, eating about half your FDA calories while eating foods high in nutrition, also increases life span. As long as I don't forget to take my metformin, my glucose stays below 140. My A1C is always good.

"And don’t listen to your Dr"..
That seems safe.. #facepalm lol

@hippydog , all Dr. are practicing medicine. Dr.s are people, fallible, and busy.

The Medical schools are funded by Big Pharma.

Most medical studies are junk science and cannot be replicated.

Government funded medical research is politically biased

NOTE: Dr.s are “Healing Assistants”, NOT “Healers”. YOU and YOUR BODY and NATURE are the “Healers”

@hippydog

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@Jonado TY

@Jonado My A1c results are always OK, and my glucose is rarely above 140.

@hippydog maybe I should have said “listen to your Dr, then do your own research, and make up your own mind”

Drs are a tool, a useful tool, but they shouldn’t be the ONLY tool in your toolbox.

It amazes me that people who won’t put 100% faith in a priest, will put 100% belief in another profession.

@Jonado , then work harder.

BTW, I’m Type II insulin resistant/metabolic disorder diabetic. I take metformin, and glipizide as needed

@Jonado I partly knew. I knew the drugs they give me improve the cells ability to use insulin. However, I hadn't made the connection to it making weight loss difficult, but it makes sense. At least I'm not taking glyburide, which increases your appetite.

Thanks. Though I'm frustrated it takes so long to loose weight, loosing it is easy when you eat right. I can remember eating 3000 calories and being hungry in half an hour. My body was telling me that I was eating the wrong foods, but I hadn't learned what to eat. I try to eat a bit of kale every day; although, I hate the taste. Whatever I think of the flavor, if It's good for me, I eat it anyway. The prescription is simple, "Eat a rainbow of vegetables."

Thanks. I'm frustrated and ranting, and I hate being fat. However, I do feel good about myself. My weight has kept me in a lift chair and wheelchair for years, and I need to exercise to become mobile, which I'm working on. When I can, I think I'll check out animal rescue and political activism.

@EdEarl Yes - working with no kill animal shelters will can be so rewarding. Even if you can't do a lot of "hands on" right now - they all need help with admin/paperwork, etc. If you can sit at a computer you can help with all the data entry and paperwork. A lot of the bigger libraries need volunteers as well - all the thrift stores need help sorting, etc. Everything you "give" comes back to you tenfold.

@Lavergne Thanks for the tips.

Thanks, I'd rather not be in your care in an operating theater; I have a stint, which is enough.

You maintained your weight for a decade; is that without bariactric stomach reduction surgery? If so, that's awesome.

@EdEarl I’ve spent a good deal of time in the Cath Lab. No, I’ve not had a baritric procedure. I had a difficult recovery after my back surgery in 2001 due to my weight. I was becoming more reliant on opioids. The fear of becoming dependent was foremost in my mind. After discussions with my doctors and nutritionist. I began a diet and exercise plan, got rid of the drugs. There was also a competition with my sister involved, she lost 150 as well. Once you’re living the lifestyle, it’s second nature.. the perk it’s all my kids know so they are growing up healthy from the start.

@Green_eyes Awesome, I can do it.