We all want to be accepted for who we are and loved without having to change for someone. The problem I have had dating is not so much finding men to date but that they hide who they really are and what they want for a very long time. My last relationship the man hid his bad habits, true fitness and what he was really like in bed until we lived together. Once living together I was in a relationship with a completely different person, so say the least we no longer are together. For all you men who think they are what the women in the article want, show your true self from the beginning so you can be loved and accepted for the real you.

Usually they are stuck up feminist with too much education too much debt. Want their Prince charming and never get it when they're 45 and end up being a super cat lady. No family no kids enjoy your career enjoy your education and enjoy being alone. Let this never happened to you beautiful ladies enjoy the man of your youth marry him.

Awesome article. Now if only I could find one that lives in Auckland, New Zealand...

Great read. The one huge turn off for me, and the reason I have given up actively looking for a partner, is older men seem to be needy and too quick to find ANYONE to fill their "needs". Most common needs I run into are loneliness,sex, nursing- cooking, cleaning, care taking ect., financial concerns. The list does go on, but when your looking for a partner dating seems so artificial and forced. Online dating does not make things easier either because so many other profiles/ options are simply at the tips of their fingertips and very few want to take time to build a relationship. I am willing to give finding love another chance, but it has to be a real connection or spark with someone, and That's a rare experience.

I didn’t read the article lol , but just the comments. Honesty ,transparency and having a awareness and sensitivity to what is going within and around you at the time is key. I had to ask myself questions like: what is Love , happiness and a relationship supposed to be for me . A bunch of time were are merely imitating what we have learned through out by observing others . Good dialogue here .

"Women who are super picky aren’t judgmental; they just know what they want, and they’re not about to settle for anything or anyone that’s not as amazing as they are. Guys that can keep up, be real, be honest, and love hard are the only kind they’ll accept. If these guys aren’t up to scratch, they don’t stand a chance. No questions asked."

This.

The article is clearly written from the female perspective. "I'm single because, I'm too awesome for most people."

Here's the truth -- People get the mate they deserve.

Is it because the men who are looking for relationships do not satisfy the decent women? Is the group of acceptable men smaller than the number of decent women? Do you have a rational proposal to remedy the situation?

I agree chemistry can overcome any of these things. I also know that chemistry is not always immediate. If the chemistry is not immediate the explanations in the article are very valid. No instant chemistry means the guy runs away or the girl runs away before the chemistry happens. I think males often develop chemistry before the female does. I also know some guys like an independent self-assured female. I hope someday I find another one with that mindset.

How about they're just as scared and confused as anyone else?

all it requires is for two people to hit it off. the rest takes care of itself

There is either a chemistry between people or there isn't. All the other stuff are just excuses. Boring!

I relate most to #11...matching chemistries is a tough nut...