I’m not stereotyping I’m trying to get opinions on a subject that continues to stimulate communication and conversation. I actually was referring to a particular person on this site that seemed to disregard most of my side of chat. Just seemed very strange so wanted some outside insights.

It becomes tedious when you have to reply this way often enough that it becomes a mantra.

@DiThor lol, and so deafness is feigned ?.

yes i have that type of misunderstanding happen to me also

@Alvinsmama Tone is often difficult to detect. I try to focus on context and connotation but I'm not always accurate. Paraphrasing is a useful tactic I use.

Great point, Jack. Most women focus on every single word, infusing all of them with meanings we fear or hope may be lurking behind them.

@ElusiveMoby I often wonder how much our childhoods influence how we see the world, both men and women.

@JackPedigo We bring all our conscious and unconscious experiences, all our desires, all our fears, all our doubts. It's a wonder any of us find love, especially after a divorce.

@ElusiveMoby I agree, divorces, split-ups can be especially hard on ones psyche. I have been through a divorce, experienced adultery, another partner's alcoholism yet still managed to find beautiful love. Unfortunately, that was to be cut short with her death. Point is one must try and not let the past create one's future. It is said the best revenge is a good life and that can only be gotten by letting go. Thanks for the insight.

@JackPedigo Oh Jack, this is powerful and I appreciate you sharing. This medium is powerful because it allows us to reach out to one another and create connections, offer insights, provide encouragement. You, Jack, have my encouragement.

@ElusiveMoby Thank you for the compliment. I like to write and have written hundreds of letters to various groups. Just recently a group was formed, on my island, to protest an attempt to start an industrial marijuana farm [saynolopez.com]. I wrote for this and we (25 of us) even made 3 trips to our county seat in Friday Harbor, San Juan Island, to testify. We were able to get a moratorium (it really feels good to see ones efforts come to fruition. Anyway, through this site I have discovered sooo much about myself and, strangely, things I didn't know about my late partner. Over the long time I have been here I have shared a lot of secrets and information. I think being virtual helps people to open up.

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Excellent methodology. I wish some of those hitting the block button would wake up to themselves.
A friend used to say "to assume is to put an ass before you and me".

@FrayedBear I first heard that watching Benny Hill. It's stayed with me ever since!

@FrayedBear

@LetzGetReal its like mixing up toothpaste and hemorrhoid cream. Your ass will smell sweet and whistling will be easy.

@LetzGetReal generally speaking its all anecdotal

Wow sounds like something my grandfather might have said? And he'd be around 110 yo now?

I never twitter btw - I speak - and on topic.

@RavenCT the original post said men don't listen, and yes my Uncle said the sparrow part it was situational a group sat beside us and their loud animated conversation made our own conversation impossible.? it was apt.
I reject completely that men are unable to listen, that they are only interested in "charms" it is B.S.
I believe I just demonstrated that.
It is quite possible that your audience is not receptive to your point of view. Some persist long after that point. This could be the heart of the matter.

@Tooreen Nah my male friends etc listen to me. Or they wouldn't be my friends. (Even my surviving relatives listen - most of the time).

Tuning someone out you live with however? That's a thing. I've seen that.
It's humorous because sometimes it's a survival skill when you've heard the same thing for the 100th time.

But for the most part I don't do that to people. You can tell when someone has gone into nattering mode (usually) when they don't really want you to listen actively and they're just prattling along... at least I hope I have that skill? Or I might have missed some important stuff along the way.

I'm one of those active listeners though - so it doesn't happen on my end very often. But sometimes I'm distracted. I think that happens to all of us.

Helps if you can have a sense of humor about it. It's a human thing. Not just a guy thing.

I crave solitude and quiet. Can't muster any interest in keeping up at a sparrow fest.

Very true. I tend to hate generalizations.

Thank you. My thought exactly.

@LetzGetReal ok but I live in Delaware by the beach

@LetzGetReal 6ft tall 220lbs size 13 shoes lol

@LetzGetReal and single