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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I would strongly recommend reading everything you can about emotional intelligence, psychology, and social engineering. That way the next time you are in a dark place, you will know exactly what is wrong and how to navigate through it. This also opens up the possibility of helping other people out of emotional situations, or avoiding them altogether.
Happy_Killbot
Level 7
Apr 25, 2019
1
Be Happy you have them,,life would not be the same without them
RoyMillar
Level 9
Apr 9, 2019
0
You're right. Emotions make us feel alive. Even bad ones. But we don't want to be controlled by our emotions. It's better that we control them.
In my humble opinion, I am in control of my emotions and when I think I can't control them, it's kind of like laziness on my part. I can choose how to experience my life each day and when I am feeling something that is disturbing to me, then I analyze it and figure out why I am allowing it to be so important. Maybe that's just me, but I still have emotions, I just refuse to let them take over my life. Sorry you are having trouble with emotions. Take a look at the 4 Agreements in addition to Taoism. They work well together.
SiouxcitySue
Level 8
Apr 9, 2019
3
Seems to me many people conflate emotions/feelings and behavior. Feelings just happen. Yes, we can learn to recognize something/someone that might trigger certain emotions and choose to avoid them but when a feeling comes there's no stopping it. Now, how we choose to react to those feelings is 100% on each of us as individuals. There are people who will try and use that as an excuse for their behavior but that's just nonsense.
To your point though knowing yourself and learning to be honest with yourself is vital for learning how to control how you "express" your emotions.
If emotions are causing pain, detach from them and replace them with deliberation/intellect.
dare2dream
Level 7
Apr 8, 2019
1
To be stoic is one thing. To the ignorant detach might translate to push down and ignore though which isn't healthy either.
The same door that allows in pain is the door that opens to pleasure and happiness
So hang in there!
1000runner
Level 7
Apr 8, 2019
2
I really liked that statement, thank you!
Emotions are what make us human and let us know we are alive! Kisses sweet hippydog!
Wildflower
Level 8
Apr 8, 2019
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@wildflower That is true, but they also make us wish we were dead.
@Kojaksmom Oh I hear that. I've been there.
I think animals have emotions too. Intelect is what makes us human and sets us apart from the rest of the animals.
Even when they’re very bad, they’re what make us alive and human. I know, I know. But the quickest way out of bad feelings is through them. Also, EFT helps me a lot. You might check that out.
brainyactress
Level 7
Apr 8, 2019
4
what's EFT? 
@demifeministgal Emotional Freedom Technique also called tapping therapy. Loads of stuff online. It seems weird but it’s been really effective for me.
@brainyactress ooh. Is that the thing with using like an elastic rubber band and snapping it on your wrist every time emotions get intense?
@demifeministgal No, not quite. ?
if you hold your breath for 48 hours.....yeah,never mind,the damn emotions still won't leave I fear
lookinhard
Level 7
Apr 8, 2019
3
Thankfully its not THAT bad ?
Time will help, the more distance you get from it the better.
HippieChick58
Level 9
Apr 8, 2019
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