The same in return.

No, not so. Since I have posted this, I believe that I have found this someone.

it really isnt.just like the song said....."this is a promise with a catch.......you need to be open to love because love is looking too......"....but what do I know?Its only a song. like SO MANY songs i get to hear.But......

Right, a relationship is a transaction and requires work from both parties. I suspect that finding the right person is not easy, much less guaranteed. And sometimes you find the right one to early or late in your or your partner’s life and you can’t accept it. I’m pretty sure that no one ever said that life is fair. But when you find the one, life is beautiful.

That is a shallow point of view.

@Our_existence
Correct. It is called pragmatism and it is not deep. That is the attractiveness of pragmatism. It discounts myths, dreams, false hopes, superstitions, miracles, blind beliefs and faith without reason. Pragmatism is based on realities, probabilities, and facts on the ground. Yes, pragmatism is shallow to dreamers and hopers.

@St-Sinner Again, I disagree. But you have to experience what I experience in order to understand what I am thinking and feeling.

@Our_existence
It is rarely possible and you were one extremely lucky. There are too many frustrated, disappointed, waiting-for-ever souls that did not know that too high and incorrect expectations is a fool's game. I am not saying close the door but be very pragmatic. Often you have short windows in life to find a partner... a man to be your lover, a father of your children, a companion in middle age and in old age. Wanting an ideal man or a woman for all stages with all attributes and to expect great matches in dating is asking for too much.

Your good experience in very uncommon from what I have seen in life... not just in mine.

@St-Sinner In this case, it developed over many years.... Very slowly.

@Our_existence
That is how it is supposed to work. Start with imperfections, learn to love the good in each other, develop gratitude and know that each person has something beautiful to offer. My philosophy lately is that relationship failures start with incorrect expectations. We call them primitive but that is how ancient cultures work. Reconciliations are mandatory.

@St-Sinner Acceptance is the key

@Our_existence I agree fully.

I loved this discourse. You both disagreed but by the end came together and agreed with each other,

@Detritus
Finding a perfect person is not easy but finding the right personal is not difficult if we start with reasonable expectations, know who you are, what you can bring to the relationship and the fact that all people are different and everybody has a good side and imperfections. A relationship becomes rewarding when you start pragmatic, maximize the good, play down the negatives and above all develop a lot of gratitude for what the partner brings to the relationship. None of the work here requires broadcasting the relationship to your friends, at work, on Facebook, taking photos, expecting gifts and yes, PDA. Be real and understand the difference between what you want and what you deserve. Life is not a Disney fairy tale.

@Cherie4444
The reality is not as beautiful as a dream but our POV can make everything look very different every day. Do you know a person who has just survived a serious accident or surgery or near-death experience, sees the grass is greener and the world is more beautiful? That is because his POV has changed from talking the beauty in life and around us in the world for granted to beginning to appreciate every small thing in and around us. Life can be very beautiful if we want to it to be.

Something like that hasn’t showed up in my realm so far. If it ever does I’ll shout it out. Everyone will know I have it. They can stop looking now.

You might be right about that!

So v ery true !

@Cast1es absolutely

When I found the right person, as the song says “loving her was easier than anything I’ll ever do again”.

Searching hard for that,probably never find