I was on a similar sexual level with my husband. Nothing off limits. Finding that kind of mutual chemistry and level of trust and intimacy again is going to be extremely difficult.
I would suggest trying to find out what turns them on and then ‘feeling them out’ through conversation before deciding who to spend your future time, and potential emotional investment in.
I hope you find someone compatible.

If you'd prefer someone who is open to "unconventional" sex, it's better to make that known upfront. I've dated guys who aren't too adventurous and it really takes a toll on me. Not that sex is all that matters, but it does matter. Being with someone who thinks anything out of the ordinary is gross or perverted or just plain wrong, makes me feel like a terrible person which makes for a terrible relationship...

It could be possible she has not been shown what deep sexual passion is like so doesn’t know if she’d like it? It would certainly take patience and building trust and lots positivity, perhaps she will open up and enjoy it if you can show her your world in a safe way?

Well the fact that you're willing to meet someone middle of the road is a positive step in the right direction. It's going to require a lot of communication and to develop a sense of trust between the two of you. I suppose it would depend on how high is sex is on your priority list. Perhaps you might benefit from putting yourself out there as a sexually adventurous person who is looking for the same.

I think you might want someone into kink.