Well as the saying goes, "if you have a boy you only have to worry about one penis but if you have a girl you have to worry about all of them." Makes perfect sense to me in case there's a "mistake" re other forms of birth control.

Good for her! I did this for all 4 of my daughters. one didn't take her pills faithfully and got pregnant on her 17th birthday. I would have never kicked her out! the boy is 15 today. my daughter has been married to the father for 14 yrs. she has a bachelor's in banking. my parents did kick me out- and it's a cruel world.

Good for her! I did this for all 4 of my daughters. one didn't take her pills faithfully and got pregnant on her 17th birthday. I would have never kicked her out! the boy is 15 today. my daughter has been married to the father for 14 yrs. she has a bachelor's in banking. my parents did kick me out- and it's a cruel world.

I personally do not think it's right. For me, logically, would be to make sure there is open communication about sex and relationships first. Then when they get into some sort of relationship whether it is serious or not, have the birth control discussion to see if they are ready for it. Their hormones are going to be constantly changing at that age. Why mess with them more than they need to be? Sometimes I don't think adults give their kids enough credit to make the right decisions. I also do not think there is enough taught about this issue in both school and at home. i.e. the consequences, the sacrifices that have to be made, the cost of living, etc. And if it is a particularly hard headed girl that doesn't seem to listen to anything the parent says and doesn't pay attention in school, then maybe it would be a good idea.

I think open communication is great but it sounds like they’re getting the shot whether they like it or not.

Also, and I realize I’m being really judgy here, but I cannot imagine kicking one of my children out of the house if they got pregnant.

AH the old brainwashing trick....

The message they may be getting is that she doesn't trust them to have control of their own life, although the consistency of doing it across the board may help them deal with that.

I found that communication worked well with my daughter and faux daughters, particularly when I followed it with the story of my daughter's conception. (I had been on the pill for 14 years and my husband was older, so we had been prepped that it would likely be a year or so before I conceived. In preparation for this, I went off the pill, and I conceived the first time we had sex after that. It was a good real-life warning story.) If they should for some reason not want to share with me, I have also given them full information on how to take care of it themselves, and they've all been responsible adults.

I also got my daughter on birth control, and had a scary disease conversation so she'd glove up anyway.
Regarding the pill I told her, "now just because you are wearing a seatbelt, is no excuse for getting in a car wreck"

Good for the mom. Let her kids know what is expected of them and what she will do to help. My late partner told her kids if they got into trouble and ended in jail she would visit them but not bail them out. "Discipline first then love was her motto and it applied to everyone including herself and, of course, me. And don't think she was hard to live with, just the opposite.

They are likely given Depo Provera which can cause long term problems. I would not let my kids use it again, however my kids did dodge the problems. Yes, my kids were put on birth control. The chief reason was dysmenorrhea, painful periods. However I did tell my girls if they got pregnant I would not love them less and I would help them with the baby. Their dad, my ex was not on the same sheet of music. There is no such thing as an illegitimate baby, only foolish parents, which is part of the discussion I had with the girls. The grandbabies have all come when the girls were over 25 and in stable relationships, so for that much I think we did good.

The whole idea getting the girls used to birth control is a great step in the right direction. Not just the girls, boys too. We have enough humans on this earth right now to be detrimental to the well being of each other. Our elbow room is running low and there is violence popping up everywhere. Show them the cost of living index in many of the major cities, that should reinforce it.

Sounds ok to me. Though if the unplanned were to happen, I hope she might change her attitude toward a daughter with something in the oven.

No just flat out no.

One those injections can have side effects. Including depression.

Also going to an OB/GYN for an exam before sex has ever occurred? Ouch. (Hymen).

I'd rather do what my sister did and keep a large quantity supply of condoms in the bathroom - let them know it's there.

Involuntary birth control - just no.