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How is it possible to love and miss someone so much that it hurts and at the same time love someone new? I'm absolutely heartbroken this morning and at the same time I can't wait until Saturday because I have a date. Feels like there's a hurricane in my heart and mind at the moment.

ProudMary 8 Oct 9
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I think we all face these feelings from time to time, even when you are in a steady loving relationship again. The feelings of love never diminish for your previous SO or spouse. We wrestle with new feelings of love and feel tremendous guilt from time to time. This was something I really struggled with. Internally I was a mess as I tried to grasp what was going on with me externally. It is possible to continue to love those we lost as well as those we currently have in our heart.

Hazydays Level 7 Oct 10, 2018
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I can empathize with your situation. The worst part is the loneliness. I am having trouble sleeping in our bed,and the emptiness in the house is sometimes overwhelming.

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It is called change. I miss a lot of things about my late partner but do not want someone just like her. To try and replace someone with another is a huge mistake and unfair to all involved (including the late spouse/partner).

Exactly, the type of women I'm hanging out with now are not like my wife. I'll never find another old hippie like her and am not even trying. I think that keeps her memories that I have firmly in my memory and am able to move on and explore other types of relationships.

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memories don't disappear. but if you allow the emotional past to dominate the emotional present and future you're going to suffer ongoing grief.

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It is possible. The heart wants what it wants. It is almost two years for my loss of my husband but when I date I make sure the other person knows they are not replacing him but my husband lives in my heart and will always be a part of me. If someone cannot accept that he is not for me. I also have a date Saturday and fortunately he does understand after speaking for several weeks. So go out and enjoy!! We all need some happiness in our lives.

Rose2U Level 7 Oct 9, 2018
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We are very complex beings. You are at a new and probably bewildering stage in your life. You are looking forward the possibility of a new beginning with someone and at the same time still missing the love of your life who is no longer here. I suspect you are feeling a little bit guilty about it, and that is a completely natural thing to feel, but you are here and he is gone and would want you to find happiness with another I am sure. I do hope it works for you and this is the start of a beautiful new relationship. ?

Very nice. A couple of the men I've dated are widowers, so they are also conflicted.

@Susieq Just enjoy life...we owe it to those who have gone too soon to live and love again.

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"The thunder in my chest where it Rumbles" some people are a lot to miss. But new people are wonderful. I guess we have to embrace it all?

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