Well, on my travels I've had mixed responses to my grief and widowhood, I think I need to share the best of the worst though.
A female 'friend' asked how long I was going to hold a candle for Jock and told me that perhaps I should go out and have sex with a random stranger to help me get over him as that's what she did when her husband died!
Takes all sorts.
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Wow, that’s a new one! I wonder if they had a kind of open marriage when he was alive? Some couples are quite relaxed about that sort of thing.....not many though I’m sure.
Marionville
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Nov 2, 2018
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@Marionville I did think to ask if she loved her husband she then clarified by saying they were separated at the time and she hated him. So I pointed out that I loved Jock, still do and I couldn't think of anything more disrespectful to me, Jock or the stranger.
@psycheworks I think she was only thinking about her own situation and it was an outrageous thing to suggest to you. Bitch!
@Marionville yep
Wow, just wow! Unreal how some people act after the death of a loved one. How better to show how much you loved someone than to go out and fuck a stranger to get over them??????????????
Redheadedgammy
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Nov 2, 2018
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@Redheadedgammy I did think to ask if she loved her husband she then clarified by saying they were separated at the time and she hated him. So I pointed out that I loved Jock, still do and I couldn't think of anything more disrespectful to me, Jock or the stranger.
@psycheworks excellent comeback! It just amazes me what people say to others sometimes. We humans just don't seem to have any manners any longer. Just spew whatever comes into your mind. Her situation was bad for her and she says she hated her husband, but why would she assume others would be in the same boat? How long have you known this "friend"?
@Redheadedgammy about 3 years I was invited along with Jock's ashes to her wedding last year, she's my team leader at one of the festivals where I volunteer as a steward. Supposedly her and the new husband loved Jock so much he was booked to perform at their wedding but passed before the date. So for me what she said was very shocking.
@psycheworks very shocking indeed. I believe I would walk away from someone like that. I've gotten to the point in my life that I simply will not put up with people who are so insensitive and crass. I'm so sorry you had to hear such crap.
@Redheadedgammy Thank you, I don't have to deal with her much only for a few days a year
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