Yes I'm in the same situation. At my age my friends are either in marriages or relationships. I never realized how lonely that I was. I met someone on this site and we began having an internet sort of romance. It was obvious to me that we would never meet, and he has young kids that I'm not open to, and recently he stopped contacting me. I seem to have an inability to connect and get attached to anyone since my husband's death.

I have gone thru same situation. Starts to wear on you so I have decided not to take it to heart and nice and slow. If it's meant to be it will. Does not make the hurt any less but I learn from it. I am learning to be my best friend.

I think it's very hard.

That has happened to me too. I know I'll never love again like I loved my wife. But a different love can be good too. It sure is better than grieving! Since my wife died I have dated a lady or two only to decide after a few months (or several months) that they just weren't right for me. Maybe I feel they aren't right because they are not my wife??

I would urge anyone not to give up. What you want is most likely possible. You just have to be patient, get yourself out into more social circles and follow your interests and passions.

I think you have to ask yourself the question whether you really want to have another close relationship or not. If the answer is yes...then perhaps the answer lies in how necessary it is for you to feel as deeply for any new partner as you did for your late husband. On this day, the 8th anniversary of my husband’s death, I have been thinking a lot about why it is that I feel I will never have another close relationship. The conclusion I have come to is that I have never found anyone else I am actually really attracted to. If there is no chemistry in a relationship it is never going to work....maybe you are like me in that respect. I could never be intimate with a man unless that sexual attraction was there, in my case I haven’t met another man who I feel that way about. I often sit with a tub of ice-cream too!