I've been dating a Canadian snowbird who is here for the winter. Thursday was the 2nd anniversay of his wife's death and he wanted to be alone. Yesterday morning, (Friday) he called me and said he didn't want to see me anymore. He wanted to be alone in the world. He wish he had a cabin he could go to and live by himself. I said if you need to talk, call me and don't do anything stupid. He said his daughter already talked him out of killing himself. I feel for him, but it's over. I've had enough rejection from men since my husband's death and I don't need any more. I need to be strong for me now.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I had been in much the same boat after my divorce in 1987. I was raising two young sons and trying to move on with my life. Kept meeting guys who I thought might work for me but nothing. It wasn't until I met Richard in 2004 that someone finally clicked with me. I hope you don't have to wait as long as I did, but just trust that when you're not expecting it the right person comes. I only had 15 years with him, but they were the best of my life.
Redheadedgammy
Level 9
Dec 1, 2018
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if you're happy as a loner, OK, but otherwise you need to keep looking if you want to find a partner. it's not easy. i know from experience
TheDoubter
Level 9
Dec 1, 2018
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Well, I tried not to be a loner. I've dated 12 men in my 3 years of widow hood, but here I am with no one. I don't think a man in my life is the answer, but I was hoping.
@Susieq keep hoping, keep you eyes peeled and reach out if some guy looks like a potential partner
Unfortunately that is common and I think more so among those who have never had any other partners. My late partner (my 3rd long term partnership) and I agreed when one of us died the other would keep the mourning period short and go one with our lives. I would have wanted that for her and she of me. It also helps if someone has had an alone period before and knows how to take care of oneself. I, for one, will try to stay away from 'needy' people.
JackPedigo
Level 9
Dec 1, 2018
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He married the only woman he knew and they were married for 53 years. I can't compete with her ghost.
