When I joined this site I was married with my wife in hospice. My wife, Dawn, died just before midnight, 11:46pm Sunday July 28. She died with her head resting in my hands. Two of her close running friends stayed by her side as well. This was one of the most moving moments of my life, albeit incredibly sad. Her body, worn away by the cancer and therapies, was kept alive by that runners heart. Hospice for 26 months, 6 months nursing home before that, and 26 months of craniotomies, radiation, chemo, cyberknife and laser surgeries prior to all that. I was so sad to see her go, yet so relieved her suffering was over.
I've got a lot to process; I'll get back in here later. later
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.My sympathies to you in your loss. It was such a long process for you both to go through. It took two years for my husband to finally let go, so I know how emotionally drained you are. Remember to take care of yourself. Sending hugs your way.
Redheadedgammy
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Aug 1, 2019
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I've been through this too, and am so sorry for your loss. It is indeed a strange dichotomy to mourn such a loss while at the same time being relieved that they are finally beyond the reach of their suffering.
Be very patient with yourself during the long process of integrating this huge life change. Strength to you.
mordant
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July 31, 2019
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It's really hard to watch someone you love die of cancer.
And of the deaths I've been there for - I found both deaths very moving. Maybe someday I'll find the words.
I'm very sorry for your loss - but I know there must be some relief that her suffering is over. It seems it's always that way with Cancer.
Be certain to take care of yourself now. It's probably become a bit foreign to think of your own needs. But you've been driving yourself to meet her needs for a long time now.
Big breaths.
RavenCT
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July 31, 2019
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Wow. That road was really rough for quite a long while. It is so hard to watch them get frail and struggle to get by each day.
dare2dream
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July 31, 2019
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