I have chosen to place this here to let others know that we do move forward. When I first became a widow just over nine years ago, I had nine of these hallmarks, the second year I had ten. I didn’t let anyone know the torment I was in. It was comforting to know this is the way out of my agony, except for one thing, one question, who was going to find me? That would be my brother, I could not do this to him, but I came very close. Nine years later, I have none of these hallmarks. For all who has had their beloved die, you will move forward.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I see six of these that I would use to describe myself since my longtime partner passed away last year
WayneDalton
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Oct 17, 2019
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When my partner died 3 years ago, looking over the chart, I see I had 1 and still have 1. That one is the frequently talking about death. The reason being is that she got into the Death with Dignity program and I saw how valuable this was in helping to eliminate suffering. I am a big proponent in that and post/comment frequently on it. I also looked into the time of my own death and got involved in the Final Exit program.
My partner agreed that if (when) one of us died before the other we needed to look forward to our own life and let the past be (pleasant) memories. There can be life after death.
JackPedigo
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Oct 11, 2019
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@MsHoliday Canada adopted it, I believe, the summer of 2016. It was the same time that my partner died. Now we have 9 US states and a 10th one ready t get on board.
@MsHoliday It's still new in a lot of places and there are always problems. Here, one has to have an attending physician sign a form and then 15 days later re-sign (to be sure the person is mentally aware and has not changed their mind. At that point a consulting physician must sign and the attending physician orders the medication. It was easy where we live but in parts of the state it is not so easy. The person can decide, even at the last minute whether they want to go ahead. My partner was psyched about taking control of her death but hours before the meds arrived she went into a coma and died hours later. I had the meds returned back into the system (I had already paid) in case someone else needed it and didn't have the money. I could write a small book on all the things that happened during this process.
So glad you're here and sharing your thoughts and wisdom with us!
Redheadedgammy
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Oct 11, 2019
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