Yes, finding someone else does help but as we age that is harder and harder to find someone compatible especially if you had a wonderful relationship with the deceased. My husband will have been dead 7 years this Sept. I have wonderful friends that kept me busy with civic, political, and social activities. That helped immensely. At about the 2 year mark I decided to date. That was both a blessing and a catastrophe since I expected all men to be as wonderful as my husband (LOL). I still shed tears when I listen to the wrong kind of music or go to certain places but I find it is easier and easier to avoid that pain. I don't want to forget him, but I want to live the rest of my life to the fullest. I think that decision is the most important way to move forward. I hope you can find ways to continue creating a good existence as well. Change is inevitable, don't give up and it will be better.

It does not get better because it cannot be fixed. But we do get stronger. We eventually learn how to go on and start over.

12 1/2 YEARS AGO, my wife left family, marriage, and a wide collection of friends, due to lung cancer. smoked her entire life, from the age of 13. When she died, it was not peaceful, it was in deep, deep pain of cancer. Ended a 53 year marriage. I miss her...I cry sometimes...doesn't help...I date sometimes, doesn't help. So looking from the outside in, I see what's left of a lifetime of loving, and planning, succeeding, failing. And really have to ask, " Is this what it's all about ? To love, and lose ?