Sorry to be joining late. My settings let very few alerts through, so I missed this group's launch.
I've been widowed twelve years, by cancer of unknown type and origin. We had 89 days from "something's wrong" to gone. It spread like fire, everywhere!
I just got our youngest through high school. Possibly not making that milestone was a great concern since my late husband passed.
My mom became a widow this past January. It's strange to havecthe younger lead the elder, but if I can help her, I sure will.
Glad to meet everyone, but sorry that we all have this, of all things, in common.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I lost my Peggy Lou January 11th, 2016. She was diagnosed with lung cancer 28 December 2015. Exactly two weeks from diagnosis to death.
She was only 66, an athlete, only smoked about 20 years, pack a day at most. I smoked for 40 years; when I went for my first lung cancer screening, they calculated that I smoked the equivalent of a pack a day for 63 years - and I quit when I was 57. Not the slightest trace of cancer.
Until her death, I "knew" what I would be doing and with whom for the next 30 years. Now I am alone and adrift
matthew1954
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June 3, 2018
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Wow Matthew, what a brutal disease progression! I am so sorry! I definitely remember feeling my future going up in smoke when D passed. I still face a mostly blank canvas, but have gained a different perspective about it after years of being on my own.
Nice to meet you even in this crappy club.
Well done on your achievements with your kids. I’m sure it wasn’t easy.
I lost my husband a year ago next month. For us, it was only 1 month and 5 days from diagnosis to death. Too quick, too young, too painful and too heartbreaking.
Hazydays
Level 7
May 29, 2018
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I think your last sentence sums it up for most of us. My husband died when i was 40 snd he was 48. His deepest wish was to live to be 50. So sad.
Wow. You've really been through it.
Congratulations on getting your youngest through high school. That's a great accomplishment for them and you.
Yes, at some point we reverse roles with our parents and start taking care of them. It's really sad.
dare2dream
Level 7
May 29, 2018
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