I think what is comfortable for you.

It sometimes has to be that way in order for us to keep our sanity. I too am at that point. Almost vegan (honey and an occasional piece of fish). These days no one needs to eat meat to live. When we closed the meat doors we suddenly found many, many other doors we had not even seen, being opened. I have 2 friends with whom I will be sharing Thanksgiving and they are lifetime vegans (and atheists). She can make literally anything vegan and one would not know. Their daughter got her PhD from UC Berkley and helped developed the Impossible food product.
A suggestion would be for people to go get what is known as an antigen blood test. Some foods may be causing subtle reactions in ones body and they do not know this. I have a high reaction to all dairy, sunflower and sesame seeds and a medium reaction to eggs (whites) and soy.

Good luck be careful with it if you don't balance amino acids for complete proteins you can get sick

I'm mostly vegetarian but on occasion, I'll eat meat.. The holidays, I'm not so picky but I'll be enjoying eggplant Parmesan today and pernil...

When I am alone, I eat mostly vegetarian. When I eat with my kids or others, I eat what they cook and don't worry about it. I'd rather focus on the relationships than the food. I am not willing to be so focused on my perfection or my preferences as to make someone else uncomfortable or to draw unneeded attention to myself. Today being Thanksgiving, my middle daughter (age 31) is the hostess for the family gathering. She is cooking a turkey, I will have some. She asked me to make pumpkin pies and a potato dish. The pies will have whipped cream. There is dairy and eggs in everything I've made for today. I don't know what else is going to be on the table, but I will eat it without questions. It isn't about me, it is about the relationship with the rest of the family. And their dad, my ex, will be there. He has had kidney stones a few times, had to have a surgery. He will grill the cook for the ingredients in a dish, and then loudly exclaim "oh, I can't eat that!" He can if he eats it in combination with something else, and no he hasn't seen a dietitian. There is a limit to how many times eyes can be rolled.