My mom passed away seven years ago, the last three she had dementia. I get the need for some humor to alleviate the stress and heartbreak. I'm so sorry you are going through this pain, it's an awful disease. You are not alone. Stay strong.

Alzheimers killed my dad. I thought your joke was really funny. Most everything you post is funny, even when it’s groan funny.

Yes, I know to which people you are refering too. Unlike me you have not yet been reported. stay as sweet as you are, we have your back !

"I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy because they know what it's like to feel absolutely worthless and they don't want anyone else to feel like that" - Robin Williams.

I didn't see it but the climate on this site is such that your exp doesn't surprise me.
I'd have to withhold judgement until seeing it, but yeah.

Whatever the case the fact you're willing to put yourself out here with an apology speaks volumes about the quality of your character (((( hugs ))))

I work with dementia patients and I thank you for your post. I see the devastation caused by this disease daily and it's just heartbreaking. If you can find a moment of relief from reality through joking, you go for it! Of course there isn't anything funny about the disease but laughter is a coping mechanism for some, and why not? Last time I looked, it was still acceptable to do what you have to do to make it. So just be yourself, and I for one, am looking forward to hearing a funny!

I started writing a freaking book about it then another app kicked in and my phone went to the twilight zone. Lost it all...... So screw that and here it is in a nutshell.... No one knows what you're going through. I remember your picture with your Mom. That's all I needed to understand your joke. As far as I am concerned, no apology required. Carry on my friend....you know what they say, you cannot control what people will make out of whatever. (Maybe the othe msg will come back from the twilight zone later on? ..who knows)

Oh, man, don't let anyone try to take your humour away. I know that if I don't laugh at my chronic illnesses I'll just end up crying and feeling even worse. I can only imagine how much worse it is for a caregiver.

Besides, I thought the Alzheimer's joke was pretty funny.

Duke I went through this with my mom and some days I had to make jokes or I would have broken into 1000 pieces. I am sending you love and support for what you are going through. Hang tough!

I am very sorry that you and your family are dealing with the nightmare that is Alzheimer's.
I am even more sorry that you felt you had to apologize for making a joke. Humor is sometimes the ONLY thing that gets us through the shit life can throw at us. If some people are so ridiculously sensitive that they felt the need to come at you, FUCK THEM. You can make all the jokes you need to make.
Alzheimer's sucks.

I joke "worse & worse" The closer I get to death...happens every time, to the point that doctors have told me, "you need to take this more seriously" to which I replied, "you are an idiot, i want a new doctor".
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Imagine how entertaing I was as my mom got eaten by Alzheimer's, my brother in law by AIDS.
Just Fucking HILARIOUS!

Just trying to say i understand.......

I always tell people that my black humor is my way of punching terrifying thoughts in the face.

The joke was funny. Sometimes l have to use humor to get through the worst shit.

Understand you @Duke, it can creep up on you and bite real hard in the arse. My younger sister drowned in her own spittle induced pneumonia about five years ago. They said she had Alzheimer's because she smoked. Even though we weren't close it still sometimes grabs me.

Sorry you had to say this and sorry for what you are going through, been there it sucks. Keep smiling. Xoxo

Some people are just like that. I am one of them.

My brother was murdered with a shotgun yet I have made jokes about blowing my head off.
When I had cancer, I joked about death all the time.

Doesn't mean I do not care about people dealing with similar situations, it just means that I dealt with my pain with humor.

I get you.

I did feel the need to apologize. Yes, it was meant to be a joke but, I never like to hurt anyone even if it's unintentional. The joke I posted did hurt some and, for that I am sorry.

My jokes are usually so dark that most people just don't get them. Though I felt it wasn't really funny (I suffer from short term memory loss due to a small non-malignant tumor), I felt you weren't being malicious. It's just isn't my type of joke.

Your posts are usually a ray of sunshine to an otherwise dreary day. A stumble every once in a while is normal.

We all digest life as best we can. Humor is a coping mechanism for some of us but maybe not for others. I hope they find something that helps them. If one is offended then block, ignore and or move on. Thank you Duke for all the laughter you bring to my life and I look forward to more of the same.

I found it fucking hillarious it wasnt directed at anyone and those that found it offensive just want attention and will find anything offensive

Everybody has baggage. We all carry it differently. The ones that were offended carry theirs maybe more painfully and you, like a backpack, more practically. It is your compassion that made you second guess yourself but it is your wits that makes you move forward.

Duke, I'm so sorry to hear of your mother's illness. My father died from ALZs eighteen months ago so I have a good idea of what a hell it is to navigate for everyone involved. I also realize that if we couldn't laugh when we could, we'd cut our wrists and call it a day. So please feel free to release some of that tension here any time you feel the urge.

Just as an aside, everyone progresses differently with ALZ in their own time, so it's possible your mother may know you at the end. A small nugget of hope, I know, but I'm thinking you cling to those right now.

Sorry you're going through this. My best to you and your mom. I've been there. I like your humor and it feels good to chuckle when this world seems to be spinning out of control everyday. Thanks Duke

We all can make jokes but the sufferer of the illness is not going to laugh at your joke because is not funny to them and when I say sufferer may not mean the patient but the relative or love one that has to deal with that reality and with their loss. I understand I even included how I see me in the scenario that I end up with the disease. I joke about anything showing no heart but I recommend you those movies.... "Away from her" and "Still Alice". There are scenes very comical but very dramatic too and were my inspiration to write something from an affected by the illness perspective talking to his loved one. That my mother has it did not affected me, she is over 90 and still remember me and ask me about the kids but she is in advanced state. Wishing you the very best and may you as many others be spared of the illness. Peace.

We all deal with our pain in different ways. People like us deal with it using humor, which makes it quite unfortunate that said humor can bring out the pain for those who deal with it differently.