I am not vindictive but people who have made my life miserable for a couple years are not going to get my sympathy and encouragement for being dumped for treating someone else the same bad way they treated me.

Well done. When children are involved, taking the high road is almost always the best option.
I would wish for you that this turns out to be a positive for both you and your children.

Good on you for taking the high road for your children.

You responded for the win. I admire you and I am proud of you.

I know it can be hard to deal with that. If you need to vent, please message me.

Just make sure you jave a good laugh to yourself in private...its good for your health

You're a better person than I.

If it were just me, I probably would forgive but not if their antics made things bad for my kids

I take no pleasure in being the bigger person. For me it would be I told ya so or that's what you get sucks to be you attitude. Do what makes you feel best.

In my opinion, the fact that you have children together almost forces your hand into being 'the bigger person.' Furthermore, the fact that he called you after his second wife left him, speaks volumes!

Having been a product of a divorce, with a father who was clearly not the adult in the room, I am in awe of your strength, which is not unlike my mother's. I don't know how old your children are, but they will grow to love and respect you with each passing year, as you've remained true to them and yourself.

I hope, for your sake that you are able, at some point, to take cognizance of the wondrous fact that you are no longer married to a child.

You are much better person than I am. My wife left me for another guy about a year and 1/2 ago.
And I've been civil for the sake of the kids, but if he left her I wouldn't be able to control my laughter,
And tell her serves you right. I could learn something from you even though I'm not ready.

Kudos for being the bigger person. Often times people do not attempt this approach and succumb to emotional reactions. As I’m sure you are aware, this kindness can be perceived as weakness. I perceive it as strength.

It would have been far more to your credit not to trumpet your "superiority" on this site, specially given that, in fact, you merely behaved like a normal, civilised human being!

Thank you for not passing on and adding to the negativity in the world. You're the best!

I hope I can be the grown up when the time comes. I know that it was hard for you to do.

You did the right thing and set an excellent example to your kids of how an adult should behave. I wish there were more great parents out there. Keep up the good work.

This man greatly appreciates a woman like You! Maybe someday one will appreciate me...

Well done. That would have cost me at least 2mm in ground off tooth enamel.

After reading the comments.
I can add nothing, but agree with all.
Stay strong for you and the kids.

Schadenfreude is not always a bad thing. You did the right thing and its turned round. Sadly not always the case but now you can both be grown ups.

Well done, but I could not do it. My ex recently told me in a text to eat right and take better care of myself. I can advise her too but we do not share any relationship news. She did have an IT boyfriend once and I was proud when she called me with her computer problem.