I always seem like a gregarious social butterfly but in reality I'm a reclusive hermit who hardly ever leaves the house. I haven't left my property in around 3 weeks. My business is on my property so clients come here only for brief drop offs and pick ups. I cannot stand crowds at all.
I could easily stay on my property if I didn't have to work...
@Heidi68 I know people who keep black widows as pets. I don't though. Just harmless tarantulas. I'm not an expert in the venomous species (not snake ones either). I did run into some black widows and brown recluse when on a dig in California. Luckily I didn't have any issues with them.
I am highly allergic to one of my tarantulas' urticating hairs. I just wear gloves when cleaning her tank.
I need mostly time alone in near-perfect silence (unless I'm intentionally watching something on Netflix or listening to music), punctuated by occasional periods of socialization with one to three friends. Even three other people is pushing it, but any more than that and it becomes a dreaded "group."
I like the company of one other person at a time. Paired up. One focus.
I can function anywhere and work a room with ease if I have to, but smaller more intimate groups or one on one is where I thrive.
To be honest, I only have a few friends that I trust in this world. I'm turning into a hermit, but it is by choice. Unless if it is a concert or something, I'd much rather have one or two good friends around rather than a dozen fake people.
I like quality relationships and if that means just one person, i'm happy with that. I don't really like to be alone, but if no good humans are around, i surround myself with animals.
I definitely have that 'problem'.... no quality humans plenty of wonderful critters
I’ve always had a ton of acquaintances, maybe 4-5 friends but only one or two that I’d ever consider as being close friends.
I believe that the whole social thing that they try to train us with in school is seriously misguided. And extroverts scare the living hell out of me.
The very first thing that I think is “ What do you want from me?”
I say this because I have the disposition of a rattlesnake and I don’t hide it.
So whenever a stranger approaches me with that big ass predatory smile and with an even bigger and faker “ Hiii Nice to meet you!!!” It just makes me feel like I’m about to be violated in some way.
So yeah I totally get it.
I don't have the disposition of a rattlesnake but everything else - spot on!
This thing with stranger approaching with a nice to meet you is something that is common in the US. The rest of the world don't do that. Neither do they ask it you want fries with it.
I don't like big crowds, I am very comfortable in smallish groups and quite happy being alone.
Exactly how I am. Don't know if it is because I have to deal with the public all day but when I finally leave work I pretty much can't stand dealing with humans
I love people, but I prefer peace and quiet, away from civilisation. ?
I loved when I lived in WA State. We lived across the sound from Seattle, secluded along the water but could take a ferry ride to 'civilization' for a few hours. And just as quickly head back to seclusion. That was almost perfect.
@Heidi68 I may need to move to Washington State someday. I'm perfectly okay with a secluded life. As long as I'm with or surrounded by nature, trees, etc.
I prefer smaller circles but being alone too long sucks. I've never been one for crowds though.
Well....I am seldom alone....usually have one of three dogs with me....and my life romantic love lives in the same house with me...we get along really well......I know a few good people, some that I could probably count on for help if needed, and could for sure count on me.....when I'm in a crowd...its like my brain short-circuits, like theres a radio on each side of my head, full blast, on different stations....in a crowd with one speaker is okay, but many conversations...is too much. Just too much input for my feeble brain.
My brain shuts down when the background noise, conversations, whatever becomes too loud, too many, too whatever. I may have a short circuit.
@Heidi68 yeah...I'm no good trying to multi-task either...wind up throwing things out the door.....radios, t.v.s, computers, people, ect.. .....you must have a breaker switch..."brain shut down"...those must be nice.
I'm not big around a large group of people. I prefer a small group and I can handle being by myself. I think it comes from me suffering from social anxiety disorder for most of my life and after my stroke removed this "affliction", not something I would recommend, I spent a great deal of time trying to learn how to interact with people again.
It's almost always been a life with a few close friends, four to six.
I love to go out to happy hour, karaoke or card party with friends, then have a "just me" day at home. Too much of either makes me feel tired.
I'm happiest with small groups of friends. I'm a well known person but I don't do well in crowds. I do fine if I can set myself apart from them but I can get anxious if I'm a part of them.