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How would you react if you were to learn that your mate or significant other had a lover of the same sex before you knew each other? What would you want to know about the experience if anything?

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Metaqueen70 5 May 24
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Had an experience with a lesbian couple and it worked out great for all three of us, each able to explore something new. They decided to be bisexual, whenevr they wanted I learned a little of lesbian love.
My wife had a lesbian affair , briefly, as a teen - but everyone should explore everything as a teen.

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Nothing. None of my business.

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I never ask a partner about their past relationships. I Learn only what is volunteered.

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I've had relationships with a few women who had sex with other women. Married one, in fact. Didn't really want to know anything except if they enjoyed it.

1of5 Level 8 May 24, 2019
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I have been with at least two women who have been with women. I really did not really think that much about it, other than some fantasies. 🙂

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I'd like to know if that experience is over and if she is attracted to men now,and mainly if she's ready for full commitment with me.
Nice photo...

I just couldn't help but laugh. Don't you think you would notice if the experience wasn't over?

@thinkwithme No, it's not that easy to know it all. But then again, it's just a post asking for hypothetical answers, right? At least I made you laugh!

@Merseyman1 Thank you. Yes. I do get what you are thinking about. Asking/answering questions like who are you attracted to and what does that mean and are you ready for a commitment and what does that mean..That could be a lot to figure out regardless of your history.

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Without revealing much of their past ,I'd insist on a blood test for AIDS..... Yes Trust will be brought up, but people have died,for not asking the right questions...

I think gay women are actually less likely to contract HIV than heterosexual women.

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Makes her more interesting. Part of intimacy for me is sharing past experiences.

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Not my business unless indicator of future behavior

bobwjr Level 10 May 24, 2019

E.g.fooling around

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Just like sex with the opposite sex, it would be none of my business

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Not an issue

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Don't care. At all. All that matters is now. And, at my age and growth, if my SO wanted to step out and was honest about it things wouldn't change much. I have no desire to do so and i believe her as well.

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Well, it depends on if you're talking about me now, or me when I first got together with my SO 38 years ago. It wouldn't have bothered me either time, but back then I would have been much more curious and asked a bunch of questions, and now, not so much.

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Your past makes you what you are today, so if I cared for them it would fall under "none of my business" unless they wanted to discuss it.

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After getting married, I was shocked to discover my first husband was bisexual and a sexual sadist. We were best friends at the University of Michigan.

When Tim touched me, I flinched and shrank away. Left him after two years. I found it ironic that the doctor's credo is: "Do no harm."

Our marriage lasted that long was because Tim was in medical school and worked full time as a nurse. He had 8 hours to sleep, study or see me. We saw each other every 10 days.

In graduate school, I worked full time as a YMCA program director.

After our divorce, Tim courted me for four years.

"Why do you keep trying, when you know I will never go back to you?" I asked.

"To give up would force me to admit that I sexually abused my wife," Tim replied.

I had years of therapy in my 30s.

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It would not occur to me to ask.

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I’m bi so pretty much all my partners learn this. Women are not so curious; most men are. Many want to know about fmf threesomes since that’s a commonly held fantasy. If the interest and questions are respectful, I don’t mind talking about it.

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I did, she had and it was no more my business than were the other men she slept with before we got together.

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Whatever they felt like they would like to share. If nothing, thats okay too.

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  1. Awesome
  2. If she's ever contemplated a threesome, don't let me stand in the way
    2a) Actually, better specify- make sure to invite me as one of the three.

@SeaGreenEyez Why not? I'm game for pretty much anything. Good for the gander is good for the goose.

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