More drama in dating...or lack thereof. I met a guy online that I texted for two weeks. I was very attracted to his photos and also really liked texting him and his personality, which was a little introverted with humorous sarcasm and a little bit of friendly badgering. We texted daily and he always made me smile and laugh out loud. I was converted from christian, he was converted from jewish so we were both outed from our raised religion. I had recently met with a different guy who did not look like his photos and learned my lesson on meeting someone soon. I immediately texted this guy telling him we had to meet soon and why. His response was that on that day he was supposed to meal plan when he got off work and didn't want to skip it. I said okay it can wait. Then he wanted me to work out with him at his gym at 530am. I am not a morning person but I do like to workout so this was actually something that interested me. I rolled my ass out of bed at 445 and texted him. He texted back. As I was on my way ( his gym was 22 min from me), he texted me that he had fallen back asleep and so was late getting ready. He said he absolutely had to fix himself breakfast before working out...all meaning he would be late. I was irritated but thought...okay well ill just nap in the car for 15 min or workout early. I got to the gym and there were no staff until 8 so I could not enter. I went back to my car and texted him that I was napping in my car. He texted me at 615 am "Im finally here." I texted back that I had to leave at 630 or I would be late for work. I got out of my car thinking at least I could meet him real quick. He was nowhere to be seen. I waited a few minutes in the parking lot and then walked to the door and he was not there either. at this point I was upset.....I felt like an idiot and disrespected especially since it was a parking lot. I texted him that I was leaving and felt like an idiot. His response was .....okay....why you aren't blaming me are you? I was too upset to text back. Waited until that evening when he texted me to go off on him. When I confronted him on his blatant lateness and standing me up in a parking lot he got defensive and claimed he didn't even know i was there until the last minute because I had not communicated clearly that I was going and had mentioned I might not show bc i was tired. All I wanted was some glimmer of remorse and an apology but instead I got...it's your fault. We went back and forth during which I insulted him a few times and finally got an apology out of him. We resolved it and both apologized but now we aren't talking anymore much less dating. All that for NOTHING and now Im still daydreaming about what he might have looked like naked. FML
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.My first thought was he was testing you to see how much you would take.
Many years ago I had agreed to pick someone up from work and ended up waiting over 30 mins. When I jokingly said something about the wait, I got my head bitten off.
When I look back at that relationship, THAT was the moment I should have walked away
Lucy_Fehr
Level 8
Aug 20, 2019
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Amazing story! Texting two weeks with a guy?
zesty
Level 7
Aug 20, 2019
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Lol i know what you are saying 
i need to get out more!!
@Lauraleigh39 In my experience, the more attention a woman shows to guys, the less intetested they become. I rarely spend more then 5 minutes texting, follow it up with a very short phone conversation. If I like the guy, I invite him to my house. If he feels unreliable, invite two guys at the same time. Make sure they understand that it is not necessarily an invitation for sex. If both show up - the better, we have a good threesome. After sex almost all guys want an exclusive twlationship. My answer is always no, why would i settle for one guy when i can have as many as i want? This approach works great for me.
Hold on .
The gym does not open until 0800. Y he made u a date for 0530.
Also , after texting for 2 weeks , he should know your work schedule . Texting u 15 mnt b4 time for u to start heading back , yeah ok .
Here is my concern as well . 0530 on a parking lot . Still dark outside ? I will had decline that date . Call me chicken shit , but I don't know, I rather be cautious .
Either way , u did nothing wrong . If he is real and if he likes u , he can cool his beans for a day or two and he can contact u again . If not , u lost nothing . Either he is into , either not .
Sounds like egocentric asshole I will to add . He ain't gonna die without breakfast for once u know , especially if someone new just drove 22 miles to meet him .
He is not your guy . U don't need that lizard .
Pralina1
Level 9
Aug 20, 2019
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24 hour gym just no staff til 8 so i could not go in on my own
@Lauraleigh39 I see .
@lauraleigh39 listen to pralina1 . Mybguess is he is married.
Do not let one bad experience change you or your expectations.
Archeus_Lore
Level 7
Aug 20, 2019
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I got stood up twice in less than 4 months by different women from dating sites, so it goes both ways, welcome to the club. With your looks it won't happen often. This guy obviously didn't want to ever meet. He was just feeding his ego by being a text buddy. It sucks that he wouldn't be a real man and admit he just wanted a texting relationship. He is likely married or otherwise involved. Live and learn. The other guy was a liar too. Try to remember that most men and women are fairly honest, but at the same time the better-looking the person, the more shit they will pull in general with the dating game. Why? Because they get most of the attention in the dating game and thus know that they can get away with more. You might consider trying out some of the guys who are only 5s and 6s in looks, because they are more likely to be decent, honest people than the 7s or better. Take my advice or not, as you like......
TomMcGiverin
Level 8
Aug 19, 2019
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You my dear have had a lucky escape! Supposed he showed & was physically HOT and your brain went to sleep until you got totally mind-fucked by him?
AnneWimsey
Level 9
Aug 19, 2019
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I agree. He seems looking for someone to dominate and abuse. You can have a better man.
He was quite disrespectful. First/early impressions are important. If anyone can't be bothered to put their best foot forward, I'd say they're not worth the effort. (That's not to say emergencies and misunderstandings don't happen, but this wasn't such a case as far as I can tell.) Good luck in your next encounter. I suspect you won't be left to only your daydreams for long.
resserts
Level 8
Aug 19, 2019
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