@Gwendolyn2018 i don't think its a byproduct, its an already existing thing that the sex industry exploits quite successfully. But to the detriment of women over all.

@Burner I have a comment and I hope it is appropriate. My father once told me, after the divorce, something like, "women basically like sex, they want it all the time, I must help them, it is my religious duty." I knew my father had problems and was a jerk, lier, and a number of other things. I have tried to show respect for all people no matter the circumstance. What I wanted to say is that there are men who only think of sex and how they can get it. Attorney General Barr referred this by mentioning the game he played in college. A game where the goal was to get a woman drunk then has sex with her. Once she is adequately drunk she will not know what happened and everyone will be able to deny the act. Some men are pigs, no disrespect to pigs, we need to get past this and treat people better and with respect.

@Gwendolyn2018 I,I,I,I,I ... perhaps the world's not all about you gwendolyn?

@Gwendolyn2018 no, I am preaching to exactly the right person. If you can't formulate the slightest amount of empathy for someone being honest and forthcoming then you're little more than an animal yourself. and a selfish one at that. please stay single so you don't drive others to depression.

@JeffMesser why would you think anyone deserves empathy? And even if they did (we may have to respectfully disagree), why would this guy have more rights than Ms G?

@JeffMesser If he wanted sympathy, perhaps he should have turned to his friends or a forum intended for that purpose rather than messaging a woman he didnt know about his lack of sex.

It's fucked up that anything thinks that is not only acceptable but worthy of some sort of accommodation as well.

Not long ago, I hired a plumber and while replacing my faucet, he felt compelled to tell about how long he had gone without sex.

It was creepy and inappropriate. I did not feel a bit sorry for him or any other man that feels he simply must tell strange women about his lack of sex

@Lucy_Fehr what's so inappropriate about it? people have sex. or in this case don't have sex. get rid of the archaic bullshit.

@Gwendolyn2018 you can have empathy for someones' suffering without having suffered in the same manner. the Buddha was born a Prince yet he had empathy for all suffering. It is your ego that prevents you from having empathy and as I am trying to show you it is counterproductive.

@JeffMesser Assuming that a single woman you do not actually know needs to know about your sex life IS inappropriate.

Why do you get to assume that we want to hear it?

In my case I had a man I never met before IN my home to fix something I HIRED him to fix start telling me about long he has gone without sex. I was paying him to replace a faucet and had zero interest in his lack of sex and it was completely wrong for him to insist that I learn this.

I can't believe you think it is acceptable for people to force conversations about any subject on another person just because they feel like sharing

@Gwendolyn2018 ego ego ego suffering suffering suffering. if you would control your emotions, put others before yourself, and show empathy for all then these things would disappear from our lives. this world is an illusion. focus on what lies beyond.

@Gwendolyn2018 please don't try to tell me about sanatan dharma when it's obvious you havent the slightest clue. typical ugly westerner. jagat mithya ayam brahmasmi

@Gwendolyn2018 so I should just stay in my place huh? I see. Hindu sannyasin and Buddhist monks debate quite often. They have the empathy that you lack. damyata datta dayadhvam.

@Gwendolyn2018 you seem rather proud of your uninformed opinions. this is especially disconcerting given your fundamentals errors like failing to recognize the upanishads, buddhism as an astika "hindu" belief, or the Buddhas status as the 9th avatar of Vishnu. So your views have the weight of packing peanuts. If my graduate school taught me to see past your views of maya then I wouldn't care if it neglected to teach me a thing about writing to your level. jagat mithya ayam brahmasmi.

I think you need to look up the definition of "outing" someone. Nobody was named by name, all that was identified was an age and gender. Unless there's only one 81-year-old male on this site, the individual remains anonymous. His actions have been described, but @Gwendolyn2018 hasn't "outed" anyone, any more than if she were to describe me as "some guy with a beard" after having an encounter with me in the market, or what have you.

In short- this was not a "name & shame", just a (rightfully deserved, in my opinion) shame.

Whew, sure glad you're not going to respond anymore! I don't know if I could take any more of your "knowledge".

@Gwendolyn2018 , OH fuck.Now he's getting into women "controlling their emotions" it's not going to get better from there. May as well stop this conversation.

@Gwendolyn2018 Well, you're a very kind person.

And even though we sort of know each other, I'm still not going into the other question... since it's not really germaine to our conversation at all.

I guess some men take the anonymity of the internet as license to say things they never would say face to face (hopefully never would, anyway).

@Gwendolyn2018 True. i am probably very close to that line. I am just not sure which side sometimes.

@Gwendolyn2018 And now?

@Gwendolyn2018 men are always hopeful about BJ's......

Start at the top and work your way down, I guess.

@ToolGuy my expectations are going lower, and lower, and...is there a bottom to this?